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Met someone and he is more intelligent than me. This does not happen often. He may be a sociopath trying to get me. My spider senses have been activated. In general we have lots of fun, no don't think of gay shit, and he presents an opportunity to grow. Growing though means to let down my guards and be vulnerable. I feel though he is using me for something and that he may be cold and calculating. It may look like I am all of that, too, but at least I know that I do not have malignant intentions. It is very exciting to get I to this friend-/companionship, but also it scares me a lot because I could take damage. Do you ever experience something like this with new friends? Usually I always am above them because of my depth and intelligence. This is a new situation for me. I have one good friend, my best friend, who I can trust 100 percent that may be above me. I forgot to mention him when I said this is a new situation for me.

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Nah I’ve never met a person I thought was more intelligent than me.

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When it comes to intelligent people, it doesn't matter unless they are out to get you.

I also find higher intelligence is accompanied with kindness. It's unwise to be an asshole in general, as a bad reputation surely leads the way to deprivation. Then the fool can be more intelligent while stuck in a rut, then once again it doesn't matter. 

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When it comes to intelligent people, it doesn't matter unless they are out to get you.

I also find higher intelligence is accompanied with kindness. It's unwise to be an asshole in general, as a bad reputation surely leads the way to deprivation. Then the fool can be more intelligent while stuck in a rut, then once again it doesn't matter. 

 This sounds smart. Can you elaborate on it? 

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ddddddd said: 

Met someone and he is more intelligent than me. This does not happen often.

It's more likely that you don't notice, especially if those of intelligence around you are on the humbler or more introverted side. A surprising amount of intelligent people don't even believe in their own ability, and from not believing in it they don't present it. 

There's also multiple kinds of intelligence. When factoring it like that instead of like a stat from a videogame, most people are probably more intelligent than you in at least one capacity. 

What'd he do that impressed upon you that he had more going on upstairs than you? 

Do you ever experience something like this with new friends?

Not really, I find new people exciting. My problem mostly comes with getting to the point of said 'new friends', such as issues with being the one to start conversations. 

This led to me wearing shirts with popular pop cultural icons on them and some otherwise flashier attire for a bit; to bait them into asking as a crutch to starting conversations. 

Usually I always am above them because of my depth and intelligence.

This sounds more like you're above them because of your ego, and you may only be seeing this new person as smart as your early impression. 

Intelligent people tend to understand Dunning Kruger pretty well, making for what typically appears as lower confidence compared to their less intelligent peers. This is why they more often speak as a jaded observer, rather than one who takes action. 

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I also find higher intelligence is accompanied with kindness. It's unwise to be an asshole in general, as a bad reputation surely leads the way to deprivation. Then the fool can be more intelligent while stuck in a rut, then once again it doesn't matter. 

Again, that depends on what sort of 'intelligence' you're talking about. 

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ddddddd said: 

Met someone and he is more intelligent than me. This does not happen often.

It's more likely that you don't notice, especially if those of intelligence around you are on the humbler or more introverted side. A surprising amount of intelligent people don't even believe in their own ability, and from not believing in it they don't present it. 

There's also multiple kinds of intelligence. When factoring it like that instead of like a stat from a videogame, most people are probably more intelligent than you in at least one capacity. 

What'd he do that impressed upon you that he had more going on upstairs than you? 

Do you ever experience something like this with new friends?

Not really, I find new people exciting. My problem mostly comes with getting to the point of said 'new friends', such as issues with being the one to start conversations. 

This led to me wearing shirts with popular pop cultural icons on them and some otherwise flashier attire for a bit; to bait them into asking as a crutch to starting conversations. 

Usually I always am above them because of my depth and intelligence.

This sounds more like you're above them because of your ego, and you may only be seeing this new person as smart as your early impression. 

Intelligent people tend to understand Dunning Kruger pretty well, making for what typically appears as lower confidence compared to their less intelligent peers. This is why they more often speak as a jaded observer, rather than one who takes action. 

 I get what you are saying. I truly think I am more intelligent than most people I know and I can usually spot pretty quickly and also accept easily if someone is smarter than me. I am often dumbfounded when he gives his view and he has a lot more knowledge than me. He seems to be a lot quicker and have more fluid intelligence as well. 

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I also find higher intelligence is accompanied with kindness. It's unwise to be an asshole in general, as a bad reputation surely leads the way to deprivation. Then the fool can be more intelligent while stuck in a rut, then once again it doesn't matter. 

Again, that depends on what sort of 'intelligence' you're talking about. 

 Intelligence is a very well defined concept. Most models will use the chrystaline/fluid intelligence model and the g and s factors of spearman. Then there are is the 8 factor model etc., but it all pretty much is the same and based on Spearman. Intelligence is the best researched and most scientific concept of psychology and I mean it in that way. 

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ddddddd said: 

I truly think I am more intelligent than most people I know

I have a similar hang up, but I don't believe myself as a matter of logic and odds. 

 

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You teach people how to treat you. If you truly believe he's a sociopath intent on taking advantage of you, then approach the situation cautiously and make it clear you're not going to put out, pay for things, be an emotional tampon. 

If you are afraid of asserting yourself without pushing him away, you should use your assertion of boundaries as an opportunity to recommend activities and interacts which would be acceptable to you. Most men, even the smartest, hold no tangible value on social interactions and are happy to go where you lead, even if you are not as smart as they are. You are likely overthinking this due to past experiences with someone who you probably viewed as smarter than you. If you expect him to mistreat you, he will. Men are VERY socially impressionable so the saying I used initially is very applicable.

 

Teach him how to treat you, set your boundaries, but keep him from running by putting a positive and hopeful face on and show real interest in spending time with him within your boundaries. If he ghosts you or mistreats you after this interaction then your gut feeling was right but I doubt it has anything to do with intelligence.

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