Discuss.
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Most people tend to be adverse to conflict overall as it doesn't contribute to goal obtainment or general well being. High-conflict people though are fundamentally adversarial and have a pattern of behavior that increases/keeps conflicts going, rather than resolving them. They don’t see their part in their own problems or conflicts and instead are preoccupied with blaming and finding fault in others.
They tend to have four key characteristics:
- Preoccupation with blaming others (targets of blame)
- Lots of all-or-nothing thinking (and solutions)
- Unmanaged emotions (which often throw them off-track)
- Extreme behaviors (that 90% of people would never do such as lying, spreading rumors, and violence )
Once you see these four characteristics, there is a lot that you can anticipate: they rarely seek counseling even when suffering the consequences of poor choices, they have unhealthy lifestyles and interpersonal relationship models, they vigorously defend their past behavior, and they escalate their attacks on those they blame -- especially towards who have caused or threaten narcissistic injury.
In other words, they are locked into their high-conflict behavior patterns and resistant to change. They see all of their problems as caused by other people, so they are not motivated to change on their own.
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Studying/observing HCPS is interesting as once one is aware of them it's easy to spot their patterns. HCPS also have traits of five personality disorders. This makes them difficult, but also highly predictable.
Five of the ten types of personality disorders are particularly prone to high-conflict behavior patterns: borderline, narcissistic, antisocial, paranoid, and histrionic.
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3/28/2021 8:35:01 PM
Studying/observing HCPS is interesting as once one is aware of them it's easy to spot their patterns.
Is it really interesting?
