friendship advice

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on 12/14/2020

Posts: 1057

so my supposedly best friend here in Germany kept for half a year a secret from me. The secret is that she has a Muslim expat boyfriend from Bangladesh!!! She said she could not tell me because she thought that I am against Islam and that I think it is wrong and sinful and that she loves him etc. She said she has never met a man that is so understanding like him. She said she was so afraid of telling me etc. I think she is absolutely crazy. I always protected her and she is so naive. I honestly think she is on the asperger spectrum. She has problems reading people's emotions etc. 'reading a room' etc. No wonders she was raped about 6 years ago. After that she was trtaumatized like hell and I helped her to get through it etc. Ok my methods were unconventional and probably would look abusive from the outside, but my intentions and the result were good. Now. What should I do with this bitch I feel

1. Misjudged

2.mistreated

3.disappointeed

4.alienated

5.ciritical of the muslim

6.worried about her

by user33313

on 12/18/2020

Posts: 798

Just ghost her lul.

by MartinLooterKing

on 12/18/2020

Posts: 1319

send her my way im a nice loving guy

by Tryptamine

on 12/18/2020

Posts: 4346

Seems weird, but it's probably the intent that matters. In your own words, you think she's on the spectrum. Maybe let her know that being a best friend also means transparency about life.

by chimpi

on 12/19/2020

Posts: 842

ddddddd said:
No wonders she was raped about 6 years ago. After that she was trtaumatized like hell and I helped her to get through it etc. Ok my methods were unconventional and probably would look abusive from the outside, but my intentions and the result were good

What kind of methods? Could you elaborate?

by Whorechata

on 12/19/2020

Posts: 2653

Maybe just stop being her friend, life would probably get better for both of you

Why do you give me user vibes?

by Crimson

on 12/19/2020

Posts: 154

chimpi said:
ddddddd said:
No wonders she was raped about 6 years ago. After that she was trtaumatized like hell and I helped her to get through it etc. Ok my methods were unconventional and probably would look abusive from the outside, but my intentions and the result were good

What kind of methods? Could you elaborate?

Chimpi can relate.

Whorechata said:
Maybe just stop being her friend, life would probably get better for both of you

Why do you give me user vibes?

I'd agree with this probably, seems like an unhealthy relationship

by ddddddd

on 12/19/2020

Posts: 1057

What do you guys think is unhealthy about it?

by ddddddd

on 12/19/2020

Posts: 1057

chimpi said:
ddddddd said:
No wonders she was raped about 6 years ago. After that she was trtaumatized like hell and I helped her to get through it etc. Ok my methods were unconventional and probably would look abusive from the outside, but my intentions and the result were good

What kind of methods? Could you elaborate?

When I met her, about 6 years ago, she could not even hug people. Had bad ptsd etc. I systematically did desensibilization with her after we became friends and she trusted me. Like I forcefully touched her chest and so on or we were lieing next to each other for an hour until her physiological reaction went down etc. I know it sounds abusive, but I did this without any kind of agenda or own need and it cured her issues over the course of two years to the point that she was able to date again etc. I healed her. But I wouldnt tell it to my superviosor hahaha xD

by Whorechata

on 12/19/2020

Posts: 2653

Crimson said:
chimpi said:
ddddddd said:
No wonders she was raped about 6 years ago. After that she was trtaumatized like hell and I helped her to get through it etc. Ok my methods were unconventional and probably would look abusive from the outside, but my intentions and the result were good

What kind of methods? Could you elaborate?
Chimpi can relate.

Explain?

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