i can't help but feel this isn't really me, and that i'm just pretending to be a better person now
if fulfillment is all about being true to yourself, things are going to have to take a dark turn
you took care of the external parts but not the inner pieces. i have been down that path before, discovered pick up artistry (mystery method etc), got skinny and cute (ppl still have old pics of me), girls, an internship in chicago in 2013 etc, pumped up my ego in order to cover up my low self esteem.
you can have millions of dollars and a body like a temple and still feel like a disgusting worm, or be a fat slob at the cafe that thinks he's God and feels it deep down(something I always envied). You still have the same insides even though you changed everything on the surface. You neglected inner game for outer game.
Get therapy, figure out who you really are, do you have childhood trauma? Work on it. It seriously works. I have way less money than 2 years ago plus I got fat and look like shit but I have a cat, an old hobby I am enjoying again, a girl and that feeling of wearing a worthy person costume over a worthless sack of shit body feeling you are describing is gone.
In your current stance you will chase self-esteem boosts like a rat by doing more push-ups, winning more chess games, then going back to feeling empty again. The issue is inside.
I got this from the red pill subreddit funnily enough 1 year ago, and I can personally say it helped me alot. People use this to boost their inner game.
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-practice-loving-kindness-meditation-3144786
Sounds like imposters syndrome. Don't give it up man!
thanks peach, hope you're doing ok dude
you took care of the external parts but not the inner pieces. i have been down that path before, discovered pick up artistry (mystery method etc), got skinny and cute (ppl still have old pics of me), girls, an internship in chicago in 2013 etc, pumped up my ego in order to cover up my low self esteem.
you can have millions of dollars and a body like a temple and still feel like a disgusting worm, or be a fat slob at the cafe that thinks he's God and feels it deep down(something I always envied). You still have the same insides even though you changed everything on the surface. You neglected inner game for outer game.
Get therapy, figure out who you really are, do you have childhood trauma? Work on it. It seriously works. I have way less money than 2 years ago plus I got fat and look like shit but I have a cat, an old hobby I am enjoying again, a girl and that feeling of wearing a worthy person costume over a worthless sack of shit body feeling you are describing is gone.
In your current stance you will chase self-esteem boosts like a rat by doing more push-ups, winning more chess games, then going back to feeling empty again. The issue is inside.
I got this from the red pill subreddit funnily enough 1 year ago, and I can personally say it helped me alot. People use this to boost their inner game.
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-practice-loving-kindness-meditation-3144786
thanks for the advice man, i can really relate to that, it's calming to know you've been through the same thing and come out on top of it