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goodgirl said: 

I think he has it in him to choose living from his heart instesd of his ego and give up the drugs and his old lifestyle

Leaving drugs is a hard road depending on someone's nature, and even if they've gotten past it they always risk relapsing. Even if he really loves you it'll likely remain an itch even post-detox, especially if his answer to drama is to binge the shit. 

It's up to you if it's worth that risk, and how many times counting it remains worth it. 

Ahahahahaha how ironic, ur bae is doing crack after all the crack hate u were pouring around from a pedestal of righteousness. 

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user33313 said: 

Ahahahahaha how ironic, ur bae is doing crack after all the crack hate u were pouring around from a pedestal of righteousness. 

:))))))))))

Lol ik i thought it was funny too when I first started dating him

Turncoat said: 

goodgirl said: 

I think he has it in him to choose living from his heart instesd of his ego and give up the drugs and his old lifestyle

Leaving drugs is a hard road depending on someone's nature, and even if they've gotten past it they always risk relapsing. Even if he really loves you it'll likely remain an itch even post-detox, especially if his answer to drama is to binge the shit. 

It's up to you if it's worth that risk, and how many times counting it remains worth it. 

Ya and I'm super intuitive about my physical safety so he will never ever be allowed back in my life if I have any paranoia. he's highly manipulative but I will know when he has made the change if he ever does 

he did make the change but he relapsed because of financial stress and being around a lot of toxic people and drama basically the same people places and things that were in his life during the most severe of his addiction

I have a plan to fix both those things and once I do and if I can tell he feels secure enough to trust that we wont have to seperate anymore (he has extremely bad attachment and abandonment issues) then I will let him come be with me and risk him snapping and suddenly killing me but like I said my intuition is verry strong and intelligent and I trust it

goodgirl said:

he did make the change but he relapsed because of financial stress and being around a lot of toxic people and drama basically the same people places and things that were in his life during the most severe of his addiction

How likely do you see financial stress not being a problem in the future though? 

Were the toxic people toxic by the nature of how he'd respond to them, or by how they actively push him back into drugs through their own enjoyment of them? 

I'm detached from him emotionally and open to finding a normal man / non toxic soulmate rn tbh even tho I love him very very much, and I will NOT let him anywhere near me and will end up completely abandoning him if I have even the slightest anxiety that he might try to kill me again. he didnt try but he started getting lightly violent kind of testing out if he wanted to do it or not but the police showed up a few seconds later lmao

I'm completely fine being single until I find someone who wants to become the best version of themselves and grow with me. I want peace and trust and real love I am done with the darkness that has been a part of our relationship so he either has to change or I will fall in love with someone new 

he might find a way to stalk me and kill me tho so there's always that lol but I think he would end up killing himself first before going that far especially if I like stop talking to him completely and my energy isnt connected to him at all

Turncoat said: 

goodgirl said:

he did make the change but he relapsed because of financial stress and being around a lot of toxic people and drama basically the same people places and things that were in his life during the most severe of his addiction

How likely do you see financial stress not being a problem in the future though? 

Were the toxic people toxic by the nature of how he'd respond to them, or by how they actively push him back into drugs through their own enjoyment of them? 

 both

and I am not sure yet, I have a career plan and I would love to become very successful at it on my own, but if it doesnt work out I will just date a guy who has enough money for both of us and possibly is successful in the career I'm interested in

Do recovery programs for bpd actually work? Like did you feel it helped

So the red flags where actually red flags. 

That's more intense than I expected, though. 

So basically... he went to rehab to get help. Met you, you distracted each other from getting any kind of help and both left rehab unchanged, and then you added additional stress to his life so now he is just as bad as before, but also trying to physically harm you too.

Wow, love story for the ages. You are both retarded. Dump his ass now the relationship is hopeless. Once a partner becomes violent the relationship cannot be salvaged.