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So you would not want your relationship to be able to resist the weathering of a toxic environment? 

I wouldnt want to even subject it to that in the first place lmao

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let alone submerse it in it for extended periods of time

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certain relationships do well on here like Palepeach and Alice and blanc and Tryp for example but I don't think ours would

Blanc and I on here are anything but stable.

I think what is important for you is to evaluate the person for a while, and see how things go. And if things go well, you can bring them into other aspects of your life. There's no need to rush exposure; do it a bit at a time.

You are already nervous about what may happen, I can tell. And I know your tendency is to frantically try to fix these things when you see signs of possible rejection. Don't poison the relationship with neurotic thoughts of abandonment, sending 70 DMs a night, etc. Let the person reveal themselves to you.

I'm sorry if that seemed offensive or blunt, but I actually have faith in you.

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So you would not want your relationship to be able to resist the weathering of a toxic environment? 

I wouldnt want to even subject it to that in the first place lmao

You don't figure you two are strong enough to handle it together? 

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we will probably become the peace and love hippie types

Posts: 478
0 votes RE: I dont think I'm going ...

So you would not want your relationship to be able to resist the weathering of a toxic environment? 

I wouldnt want to even subject it to that in the first place lmao

You don't figure you two are strong enough to handle it together? 

the point is why would a healthy loving couple want to introduce any form of toxicity into their relationship

the way you think, especially with your background in psych is bizarre

last edit on 7/17/2020 1:45:12 AM
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you do realize that any working psych professional is advised to tell patients to leave toxic behaviors, people and situations behind as quickly as possible right? and all therapy is designed to assist in helping patients to do this?

Posts: 478
0 votes RE: I dont think I'm going ...

certain relationships do well on here like Palepeach and Alice and blanc and Tryp for example but I don't think ours would

Blanc and I on here are anything but stable.

I think what is important for you is to evaluate the person for a while, and see how things go. And if things go well, you can bring them into other aspects of your life. There's no need to rush exposure; do it a bit at a time.

You are already nervous about what may happen, I can tell. And I know your tendency is to frantically try to fix these things when you see signs of possible rejection. Don't poison the relationship with neurotic thoughts of abandonment, sending 70 DMs a night, etc. Let the person reveal themselves to you.

I'm sorry if that seemed offensive or blunt, but I actually have faith in you.

 ty :) I let him take the lead on communication and touching and the speed of the relationship. the few times I haven't have thrown us majorly off balance lol for example I did today on something and regret it and now we are off balance for a sec

Posts: 478
0 votes RE: I dont think I'm going ...

certain relationships do well on here like Palepeach and Alice and blanc and Tryp for example but I don't think ours would

Blanc and I on here are anything but stable.

I think what is important for you is to evaluate the person for a while, and see how things go. And if things go well, you can bring them into other aspects of your life. There's no need to rush exposure; do it a bit at a time.

You are already nervous about what may happen, I can tell. And I know your tendency is to frantically try to fix these things when you see signs of possible rejection. Don't poison the relationship with neurotic thoughts of abandonment, sending 70 DMs a night, etc. Let the person reveal themselves to you.

I'm sorry if that seemed offensive or blunt, but I actually have faith in you.

 ty :) I let him take the lead on communication and touching and the speed of the relationship. the few times I haven't have thrown us majorly off balance lol for example I did today on something and regret it and now we are off balance for a sec

just on something small like its not a big deal but I def do not like us being off balance

last edit on 7/17/2020 2:00:02 AM
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0 votes RE: I dont think I'm going ...

So you would not want your relationship to be able to resist the weathering of a toxic environment? 

I wouldnt want to even subject it to that in the first place lmao

You don't figure you two are strong enough to handle it together? 

the point is why would a healthy loving couple want to introduce any form of toxicity into their relationship

Would it be introducing toxicity into the relationship

It seems more like attendance to a toxic environment that otherwise provides other nice gains. Unless you see SC actively putting a wedge between the two of you from your relationship being that weak, I don't really see the problem. 

You seem insecure that something like SC could rift you two apart. 

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last edit on 7/17/2020 2:21:08 AM
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