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What are some small things that you want to accomplish? I usually split my tasks down to their smallest components and then treat it like a checklist. 

I tend to multitask with things that work on the same "stat", allowing it to cross train, as doing a single task otherwise is how I get nothing done. I otherwise spread it out over however much time I have instead of leaving it all until the last minute, which adds more ease to said multitasking. This also allows me to stick to daily upkeep instead of having to drop anything that otherwise helps me tend my mental garden. 

It's hard to do an entire thing in one night because you waited so long, but it's easy to do a little bit of it every day alongside what you'd rather be doing. I tended to split studying between video games, stretches, reading things online, d20 nonsense, etc, but made sure to use an egg timer so that I didn't get offtrack. I also tried rewarding myself with bits of candy based on progress, which seemed to work well for rote learning. 

Basically, what helps for getting past procrastinating comes from an initial push. Past a point, it seems easier not to. 

Also you need to let yourself dig into topics you don't like if this is really about "growth". 

Drop the word "desired" from "desired growth" and you'll actually start mutating. Sometimes you have to let yourself change into something you don't like in order to overcome it on your way to being who you were meant to be. 

To be honest, a lot of your mentality sounds like you're waiting for people and/or your immediate environment to tell you how to live. 

You're going to be soooo henpecked when some woman picks you up (or make a hell of a cultist). 

Chaotik said: 

My main excuse for these things is that I can't focus in my own house. I blame my family for it, and believe that if I move out, I'd be able to focus more on things rather than get annoyed by them. Whether or not that's a legitimate excuse, I don't know. Most likely not. 

no excuses, just get your shit together. stop blaming others for your problems.

Sven said: 

Chaotik said: 

My main excuse for these things is that I can't focus in my own house. I blame my family for it, and believe that if I move out, I'd be able to focus more on things rather than get annoyed by them. Whether or not that's a legitimate excuse, I don't know. Most likely not. 

no excuses, just get your shit together. stop blaming others for your problems.

 

While useful advice in circumstances, life is clearly not that simple.

To elaborate, one person I watch a lot of is a Harvard-trained psychiatriat, Dr. Kanojia. He works with professional sport teams to increase flow states, addicts with their addictions, Fortune 500 executives on productivity. And a whole other range of things in his private practice, with a high success rate.

So one of the things this guy repeatedly emphasizes is that what people don't do enough is untangle why they behave how they do. And in my observation, it seems like people often need some help in doing that. As we can even be caught up in our own thought processes, or manipulated, etc.

Telling someone to just pull themselves up by their bootstraps doesn't really address any underlying cause. There is laziness, and then there are traumas, or frustrations, or resentfulment. If someone is mentioning family, you should pause and examine, because commands are not conducive.

Your productivity does not measure your worth.

Blanc said: 

Your productivity does not measure your worth.

 yes it does, don't be a leech

Tryptamine said: 

Sven said: 

Chaotik said: 

My main excuse for these things is that I can't focus in my own house. I blame my family for it, and believe that if I move out, I'd be able to focus more on things rather than get annoyed by them. Whether or not that's a legitimate excuse, I don't know. Most likely not. 

no excuses, just get your shit together. stop blaming others for your problems.

 

While useful advice in circumstances, life is clearly not that simple.

To elaborate, one person I watch a lot of is a Harvard-trained psychiatriat, Dr. Kanojia. He works with professional sport teams to increase flow states, addicts with their addictions, Fortune 500 executives on productivity. And a whole other range of things in his private practice, with a high success rate.

So one of the things this guy repeatedly emphasizes is that what people don't do enough is untangle why they behave how they do. And in my observation, it seems like people often need some help in doing that. As we can even be caught up in our own thought processes, or manipulated, etc.

Telling someone to just pull themselves up by their bootstraps doesn't really address any underlying cause. There is laziness, and then there are traumas, or frustrations, or resentfulment. If someone is mentioning family, you should pause and examine, because commands are not conducive.

this snowflake culture is sick. life does not offer you a participation trophy. get your shit together and stop complaining. everyone has problems

Sven said: 

Blanc said: 

Your productivity does not measure your worth.

 yes it does, don't be a leech