" They need something external, they need to be thrown out of the nest by momma eagle to learn how to fly "
I've been thrown out the nest a good several times in ways. You don't fall through life, you don't "pick yourself up and dust yourself off and keep moving" You just gotta learn to stumble stylishly everywhere you go.
" In order to become motivated, you first need to have the motivation to be motivated. "
I think to become motivated, you simply need a passion, or a desire.
" The other route is to keep talking to yourself in your head, meditate on the stuff you want and can't bring yourself to do. Think about it daily, don't push it aside and pass the time distracted in video games or smth. "
I do this frequently, where I just end up distracted from my goal, it's part of my personality though, I doubt it will ever change, (entp)
" this is such bullshit. No dude, the numbness and despair are abnormal, not the baseline/ the given state that we somehow scurry around to avoid. Numbness and despair are products of something wrong in your life, not the hidden boogyman that makes people "distract themselves" by living better lives lmao. "
I don't think I'm distracting myself from anything anymore at this point, I think honestly actions of recent, have just been a mental vacation- a well deserved one at that. It's more than sex for me, I'm a great fuck, so they come back- now I can start making friends and stuff, drop them off if they get clingy, I'm a mover, making close permanent friends isn't really on my list at the time being.
If I were to stop living like I am, I think I would be ok- I have mentally recovered from the past.