This isn't about the golden rule. This is about sadism, for lack of a better word to put it under.
Do you like to take experiences you've had with other people (things they've done to you)- that left you feeling annoyance, jealousy, hurt, frustration, etc. And try to see if you can recreate that feeling in someone else so you can get enjoyment out of it?
Would you say sadism is an odd form of empathy?
No, it just sounds like projection. If you are able to externalize and give whatever it was that caused you pain to someone else, it can feel like some sort of control. It's revenge fantasy. ...Well, from how the premise you put forth sounds, in any case.
Although, there can be a detached curiosity one could have in "reverse engineering" an experience in order to see from the perspective of the one who inflicted the pain on you. Is that empathy? I don't know. Sometimes it's just interesting to see how certain people react under duress. Simple morbid fascination...
Erm... that's not nice.
I will often flip people's words around and toss them back to see what their intentions are, tho. All too often, rude comments do come from rude people with issues and narcissistic tendencies.
And yeah, I can be pretty vindictive.
I don't do vicious things to innocent bystanders, tho. If somebody has a problem with me, they are always responsible for at least the initial rude comment that provoked my snide comeback.
"Do you like to take experiences you've had with other people (things they've done to you)- that left you feeling annoyance, jealousy, hurt, frustration, etc. And try to see if you can recreate that feeling in someone else so you can get enjoyment out of it?"
No. If I inflicted the same negative impact on the someone in the same fashion I was subjected to, I'd feel empathy for the whoever was on the receiving end because I've been there naturally. I also don't gain any enjoyment from recreating such feelings in someone, quite frankly it disgusts me when I see others indulge in it.
ImNotHer stated: source post
This isn't about the golden rule. This is about sadism, for lack of a better word to put it under.
Do you like to take experiences you've had with other people (things they've done to you)- that left you feeling annoyance, jealousy, hurt, frustration, etc. And try to see if you can recreate that feeling in someone else so you can get enjoyment out of it?
Would you say sadism is an odd form of empathy?
I Do Unto Others What They Deserve
what they have done to me might or might not change what they deserve. no need for black and white thinking.
I can get enjoyment from such things yes. I am unsure why thought. I usually do not feel annoyed or frustrated when i do it, but rather happy or calm.
Sadism is a form of empathy.
do not confuse empathy for sympathy.
I remember being sadistic before and after any physical or emotional abuse I can remember. I did repeat some things tho (beating my sis with a belt for ex) the things I say tend to be different than what nmom did but I don't doubt that some of the anger and hatred I got on her gets transferred to others