I didn't take that quiz yet... I will. Based on the 16 personality type quiz...

INFP

People who share the Mediator personality type share a tendency to not only strive to learn and grow as principled, moral individuals, but to bring likeminded people on that journey with them. In their own subtle, often shy way, Mediators want to lead others forward, as kindred spirits – they will find no greater opportunity for this than in parenthood.

From the start, Mediator parents are warm, loving and supportive, and take immeasurable joy in the wide-eyed wonder of their children as they explore, learn, and grow. People with the Mediator personality type will give their children the freedom they need to do this, keeping an open mind and letting their children gain their own sense of understanding. At the same time, Mediator parents will try to provide a backdrop to this freedom and experience, establishing a set of morals and values that guide that liberty with a sense of personal responsibility.

However, this sense of responsibility has a harder side – if their children fall foul of their Mediator parents’ values, it will not be taken lightly. People with the Mediator personality type take their responsibilities in parenthood seriously, and in this measure above all others.

In some ways, Mediators’ tendency to hide their inner selves from view can be an advantage in parenting, as they are able to portray themselves as good role models on the outside, shielding their loved ones not just from their own occasional anger and depression, but from the broader evils in the world as well. This helps Mediators to demonstrate outwardly the moral lessons they want their children to adopt, and at the same time to establish a sense of harmony in the household.

Modest Doubt Is Called the Beacon of the Wise

The biggest challenge for Mediator parents, especially more Turbulent types who often have even more trouble with self-doubt than most, is to establish more practical and day-to-day structures and rules. Mediators may be able to convey the abstract value of honesty with remarkable skill, but it’s not always easy to equate that idea with the practical reality of their children being home from the movies when they said they were going to be, and it’s especially challenging when these misunderstandings result in conflict. In these situations, Mediator personalities do best with a partner who is able to play a stronger hand in more administrative tasks than they can, so they can focus on the underlying spirit of those rules.

Authoritarianism: 9
More Democratic		More Authoritative
Flexibility: 20
More Laissez-Faire		More Specific
Permissive: 19
More Strict		More Lenient

You are democratic

Your family is more a democracy when it comes to setting rules and expectations. Above all, you're a flexible parent; you recognize that sometimes you have to adjust your standards according to circumstances. You prefer to have open discussions with your children about manners and morals, and encourage them to discuss their feelings about family rules and restrictions. You'll always try to admit it to your kids when you make a mistake.

You are specific

Whether you're an earth mother or a PTA president (or both!), you're every concerned with setting specific expectations for your kids' behavior. You do this both by telling them what to do and by acting as a role model, and, in general, you expect then to follow your careful guidance. As a parent, you think you should be very actively involved in fostering your child's growth, which includes determining what activities they should engage in -- sports, tutoring, music, chores, art, yoga, whatever. When it comes to everything from family meals to manners and morals, you know what's best.

You are lenient

When it comes to discipline, your watchwords are tolerance and lenience, and you tend to avoid punishing your children for behaving inappropriately. As far as enforcing rules and expectations goes, lenient parents like you don't think it's necessary to get upset with kids for not obeying instructions. It's certainly not appropriate to use spanking to get children to behave, and could be self-defeating. In your opinion, kids should be allowed to do what they like without being told exactly how to behave.

More About Your Parenting Style

Authoriatianism: How the "parenting policy" is determined: to what degree is it democratic (kids are involved) or authoritative ("because I said so").

Flexibility: How strictly the policy is implemented once established (e.g. "we have a rule that you go to sleep at 8:00 pm, but we can make an exception this time").

Permisiveness: How permissive the "policy" typically is - how lenient it is in terms of the freedom it provides the children.

You are democratic

Your family is more a democracy when it comes to setting rules and expectations. Above all, you're a flexible parent; you recognize that sometimes you have to adjust your standards according to circumstances. You prefer to have open discussions with your children about manners and morals, and encourage them to discuss their feelings about family rules and restrictions. You'll always try to admit it to your kids when you make a mistake.

You are specific

Whether you're an earth mother or a PTA president (or both!), you're every concerned with setting specific expectations for your kids' behavior. You do this both by telling them what to do and by acting as a role model, and, in general, you expect then to follow your careful guidance. As a parent, you think you should be very actively involved in fostering your child's growth, which includes determining what activities they should engage in -- sports, tutoring, music, chores, art, yoga, whatever. When it comes to everything from family meals to manners and morals, you know what's best.

You are lenient

When it comes to discipline, your watchwords are tolerance and lenience, and you tend to avoid punishing your children for behaving inappropriately. As far as enforcing rules and expectations goes, lenient parents like you don't think it's necessary to get upset with kids for not obeying instructions. It's certainly not appropriate to use spanking to get children to behave, and could be self-defeating. In your opinion, kids should be allowed to do what they like without being told exactly how to behave.

Is this some sneaky eHarmony assessment?  I guess we should pair up with like-minded parental custodians...  Or more than one, maybe.

Authoritarianism: 17

Flexibility: 24

Permissive: 10

You are authoritative

When it comes to setting rules and expectations with your kids, you're the grownup and you know what's best. And since this is the case, it's not really necessary to explain the logic or rationale behind your rules and expectations. You're also scrupulously fair: you do your best to apply your own standards equally to each child. Parents who take this approach believe that it's important for parents to make decisions for their kids and that, generally, rules and expectations shouldn't be open to discussion.

You are specific

Whether you're an earth mother or a PTA president (or both!), you're every concerned with setting specific expectations for your kids' behavior. You do this both by telling them what to do and by acting as a role model, and, in general, you expect then to follow your careful guidance. As a parent, you think you should be very actively involved in fostering your child's growth, which includes determining what activities they should engage in -- sports, tutoring, music, chores, art, yoga, whatever. When it comes to everything from family meals to manners and morals, you know what's best.

You are strict

No doubt about it: You're strict! In your opinion, kids need to be told what to do and how to do it. The approach you take to discipline is firm and direct. That's what's best for your kids, since being firm helps them understand who the boss is, and helps them respect and obey the important rules you establish. When your kids step out of line, you make sure there's an appropriate punishment -- not that you enjoy punishing them, and you try to never be too harsh (or too lenient, for that matter). Parents who answered like you indicate that sometimes, spanking is an appropriate form of discipline.

Authoritarianism: 20

Flexibility: 14

Permissive: 8

More About Your Parenting Style

You are authoritative

When it comes to setting rules and expectations with your kids, you're the grownup and you know what's best. And since this is the case, it's not really necessary to explain the logic or rationale behind your rules and expectations. You're also scrupulously fair: you do your best to apply your own standards equally to each child. Parents who take this approach believe that it's important for parents to make decisions for their kids and that, generally, rules and expectations shouldn't be open to discussion.

You are balanced between being specific and a laissez-faire attitude

You balance between offering specific instructions to your children and having a more laid-back attitude, letting your children develop and grow in the way that they choose. You sometimes set expectations for them, and hope they learn from your example, but you also feel comfortable sometimes spelling out specific expectations from them for certain things. You try and strike a balance between fostering your child's growth while letting them be independent as well. You sometimes know what's best, but sometimes you don't and want to take into account your child's opinion.

You are strict

No doubt about it: You're strict! In your opinion, kids need to be told what to do and how to do it. The approach you take to discipline is firm and direct. That's what's best for your kids, since being firm helps them understand who the boss is, and helps them respect and obey the important rules you establish. When your kids step out of line, you make sure there's an appropriate punishment -- not that you enjoy punishing them, and you try to never be too harsh (or too lenient, for that matter). Parents who answered like you indicate that sometimes, spanking is an appropriate form of discipline.

You are balanced between being authoritative and democratic

Your family is balanced between a democracy and the parent being authoritative when it comes to setting rules and expectations. You're sometimes a flexible parent, but you're also sometimes an authoritative parent when it comes to setting standards. You sometimes want to have open discussion with your children about the rules you set, but you also expect your children to obey those rules. You sometimes believe it is important for parents to make decisions for their kids with their best interests at heart.

You are specific

Whether you're an earth mother or a PTA president (or both!), you're every concerned with setting specific expectations for your kids' behavior. You do this both by telling them what to do and by acting as a role model, and, in general, you expect then to follow your careful guidance. As a parent, you think you should be very actively involved in fostering your child's growth, which includes determining what activities they should engage in -- sports, tutoring, music, chores, art, yoga, whatever. When it comes to everything from family meals to manners and morals, you know what's best.

You are strict

No doubt about it: You're strict! In your opinion, kids need to be told what to do and how to do it. The approach you take to discipline is firm and direct. That's what's best for your kids, since being firm helps them understand who the boss is, and helps them respect and obey the important rules you establish. When your kids step out of line, you make sure there's an appropriate punishment -- not that you enjoy punishing them, and you try to never be too harsh (or too lenient, for that matter). Parents who answered like you indicate that sometimes, spanking is an appropriate form of discipline.

Authoritarianism: 13

Flexibility: 24

Permissive: 13

You are democratic

Your family is more a democracy when it comes to setting rules and expectations. Above all, you're a flexible parent; you recognize that sometimes you have to adjust your standards according to circumstances. You prefer to have open discussions with your children about manners and morals, and encourage them to discuss their feelings about family rules and restrictions. You'll always try to admit it to your kids when you make a mistake.

You are specific

Whether you're an earth mother or a PTA president (or both!), you're every concerned with setting specific expectations for your kids' behavior. You do this both by telling them what to do and by acting as a role model, and, in general, you expect then to follow your careful guidance. As a parent, you think you should be very actively involved in fostering your child's growth, which includes determining what activities they should engage in -- sports, tutoring, music, chores, art, yoga, whatever. When it comes to everything from family meals to manners and morals, you know what's best.

You are balanced between being lenient and strict

As a parent, you've tried to strike a balance between being an overly lenient parent, and one who is too strict. You sometimes feel like you may need to tell your child what to do, but you also feel it's important to enforce the rules with your children. You may punish your child from time to time, but only when absolutely necessary because they've broken a rule one too many times. You want your child to understand why there are rules, but you also don't mind if they occasionally break them or have a minor infraction that needs no punishment.