If you don't let something go easily, is it because you think the other person is wrong?
the other person is always the one that is wrong. i find that yelling and physical violence helps prove the point. (sarcasm pukes) lol
when criticized?
criticism can be tough. if i feel it is deserved no problem. if i feel it is not deserved, look out, i lose it... trigger
trigger = who the fuck are you to criticized the great one who kicks ass on all. lol narcissism lives on.
How do you defend yourself when in a personal argument or when criticized? How do you react internally?
I evaluate the criticism. Invalid criticisms are discarded and/or ignored. Criticisms that appear to be due to misunderstanding are responded to and corrected. Criticisms that appear to be valid are taken under consideration and I adjust behaviour accordingly. Even if the criticizing individual is ill-intentioned, I can still use it to improve myself.
Do you prefer to avoid confrontation, create confrontation, or is it more of a case by case thing for you?
Diplomacy and tact are preferred in any situation, though not always feasible. Direct confrontation is preferable regardless. Approach me and I will respond if the request seems reasonable. I'm not likely to enter in to a confrontation without seeing a benefit. It's a matter of energy expenditure versus payoff.
Do you hold grudges or find it easy to let things go?
It depends on the situation. In general, I do not hold long-term grudges. It's usually not worth the effort it takes to continue to fuel such things. There are a few occasions in which I felt deeply, personally insulted and held a grudge on matter of principle. Those are, however, extremely rare. Most of those have been paid off, but some take years. I have two left.
If you don't let something go easily, is it because you think the other person is wrong, or is it more because you like to be thorough and get closure, finding that more constructive than evading or sweeping the issue under the rug?
It's a little bit of all of those plus the additional proof to myself that something is accomplishable and principle of the matter. For example, a career counselor telling me that "sometimes people with your types of disability [he meant PD] can't always do the things they think they can do" leading to 12 years of school and advanced degrees.
Basically, how do you deal with potential conflict or antagonism?
Initially by evaluating the expenditure involved versus the payoff received and deciding if it's worth addressing. Then responding accordingly.
Responding to this thread would likely undermine future efforts, on the face of it. However, if there is constructive responses, then perhaps it will seem more worth it to participate. I could probably fabricate things and play along in order to create a "straw man" type of strategy from it. Bait and switch. And that I'm mentioning all this out here to be read is for a reason, by the way...
Buttered Toast stated: source post
Responding to this thread would likely undermine future efforts, on the face of it. However, if there is constructive responses, then perhaps it will seem more worth it to participate. I could probably fabricate things and play along in order to create a "straw man" type of strategy from it. Bait and switch. And that I'm mentioning all this out here to be read is for a reason, by the way...
I like your style
Nicely stated MissB.
Sometimes, it is not about who is right or wrong, but to play the devil's/angel's advocate can be helpful to see the other side more clearly. Both learn and share a better understanding. It is a question of degrees of how the light bends that the colors can be appreciated. Or not for that matter.