https://www.quora.com/What-exactly-is-the-definition-of-a-sociopath
this guy knows what he is talking about
Sociopathy - One big trust issue and a giant fuck you.
moonshine stated: source post
'Trust' is grossly overrated.
What your statement lacks in intelligence it makes up with "edginess". :P
Being able to trust another or conversely having someone put their trust in you, is a rather big deal. Trust, and lack of it, ultimately determines the depth of any relationship. You said 'trust is over rated' and to me that implies that you do not understand the very basics of human relationships or how they are formed
"acknowledgement of the other's nature misnamed as trust"
I am not sure what you are trying to say. Acknowledgement (or maybe you mean 'accepting' another person's nature) does not equate to trust. I accept that some people are underhanded dirt bags and I deal with them accordingly because I do not trust them.
Mollie stated: source post
Trust, and lack of it, ultimately determines the depth of any relationship. You said 'trust is over rated' and to me that implies that you do not understand the very basics of human relationships or how they are formed
Does it?
I have multiple trust-based relations with people i do not even quite know let alone 'like', like the butcher / bank clerk / dentist / postman / & you name it. I trust them per default, and that mutual, impersonal, token trust is what keeps society's wheel running smoothly.
On the contrary, there are some people whom i dearly love and have deep human relationships with (my sister case in point), but wouldn't trust even with feeding my cat - i know them well enough not to trust them, yet they are the solid cornerstone of my world.
Then you get all those poor tossers who cry "butbutbut i trusted him/her/it!! And they screwed me over waaaaa!!!111!!"
Trust is grossly overrated. It became a by-word for wilful stupidity.
moonshine stated: source post
Does it?
I have multiple trust-based relations with people i do not even quite know let alone 'like', like the butcher / bank clerk / dentist / postman / & you name it. I trust them per default, and that mutual, impersonal, token trust is what keeps society's wheel running smoothly.
Interesting perspective. Do you trust the butcher, banker and dentist as people, or do you trust the regulated system in which the transactions you have with them take place? For example, there are consequences if the butcher were to sell you some bad or contaminated product - he could be charged, lose his license or lose customers, which impacts his livelihood. The dentist became a dentist after years of schooling and passing government certified tests and obtaining a license to operate. You admit "you don't know them" so based on that statement I don't see how you can "acknowledge their true nature" - Just sounds like a baseless point and ill-conceived thought.
On the contrary, there are some people whom i dearly love and have deep human relationships with (my sister case in point), but wouldn't trust even with feeding my cat - i know them well enough not to trust them, yet they are the solid cornerstone of my world.
This example may fit better into "acknowledging true nature". You love your sister but you don't trust her to feed your cat? Cool. Is this because she's too unreliable to feed the cat OR because she might put your cat in the microwave and turn it on? Would you love your sister equally regardless of which of these behaviours reflected her true nature?
Then you get all those poor tossers who cry "butbutbut i trusted him/her/it!! And they screwed me over waaaaa!!!111!!"
Trust is grossly overrated. It became a by-word for wilful stupidity.
If your sister cooked your cat, would you be butt hurt? ;)
Buttered Toast stated: source post
The only trust issues is with those that think they can trust a sociopath.
lol sociopaths are not the only liars and cons out there, ya know. truth and trust are seldom black and white.
Turncoat stated: source post
moonshine stated: source post
What i often see is "acknowledgement of the other's nature" misnamed as 'trust'.
This ought to be step one when it comes to trusting people... and it tends to be as far as I go.
How do you even go so far as to understand another's nature? That takes a long time to do.