It's the non-empaths who have a set of defined traits, not the empaths. So you get a huge variation of behaviors and traits in empaths because of that. The only common feature of empaths is empathy, and even that not all the time and in all circumstances, so here's nothing wrong with that.
I especially dislike being slapped in my face with emotional things I did not think about before.
For instance, when someone tells me that my friends are more than objects of entertainment and that I am supposed to care after them, or when Edvard here called me edgy after I inquired how does it matter whether Sinister is alive or dead, or when I get a response "so, if you're not upset because your father died since you have plenty of memories with him from before and the only thing that's missing are new events to form new memories, you wouldn't be upset if I died too?" The last one was particularly annoying because my answer and an answer that comes out of the context is obviously a yes, but I'm supposed to try to wiggle out and find a way to say no. Being forced to listen to sad reactions to various acts of terrorism and so on is also a bit redundant. Basically, it's annoying when my freedom of speech is limited by such remarks and when I am bothered with emotionally induced rants over things that bear no significance whatsoever to me. I then get two feels. One that I'm missing something (in this case well established empathy), which makes me feel a bit inferior, and slight irritation that I have to listen to things that aren't particularly interesting.
You are getting manipulated senpai, I reassure you that the people that are doing this aren't much emotionally capable either. You just need to find a way to strike back "Wow, you really would think I wouldn't be hurt if you died? Why you look so down on everyone? You aren't God you know?"
You clearly lack the empathy to understand that other people feel empathy for the pain others go through. And when they see you lack it, that means you are more capable to inflict it, which means you are probably trouble.
I do not give a fuck about the strangers who died in Belgium. But i understand that others care. Because i have a friend who lives in Belgium and i only asked if she is ok. I couldn't care less about the rest. But if i was to apply this care to everyone(but perhaps on a lesser extend), like most people seem to, then their reactions would make sense.
The new generation of Sociopaths (Sociopath 2.0's) Don't actually commit crimes or harm people. They instead. Talk about it online in Sociopath chat forums. The Sociopath has evolved. You fuck with a Sociopath 2.0 and they will chat about all of the things they could do to you. Ha ha ha
Yeh, groupthink is the worst. It is why people can just look on when part of the population is sent to concentration camps. The bystander effect is totally based on something empaths have, which is not empathy but groupthink. But they go hand in hand.
You are getting manipulated senpai, I reassure you that the people that are doing this aren't much emotionally capable either. You just need to find a way to strike back "Wow, you really would think I wouldn't be hurt if you died? Why you look so down on everyone? You aren't God you know?"
I am inclined to agree about the inferior emotional capacity of the other party involved. Nevertheless, such a question is 1.) less backed up than the previous statement and 2.) provoking further discussion. I mean, an obvious response would be "but you just said you didn't care much that your father died, how am I any different?"... "I'd care if you were relevant" came to my mind while running this simulation, but again, that's only putting more wood to the fire. As far as I recall, I said something in the lines of "Sure I'd be upset, but evidently I can live with it. Dying is the worst for the person who died after all."
You clearly lack the empathy to understand that other people feel empathy for the pain others go through. And when they see you lack it, that means you are more capable to inflict it, which means you are probably trouble.
I can see where this might be coming from lol ... Anyway, lacking empathy =/= lacking understanding. It took me two dead relatives to figure out that it would seem to be a nice gesture to hug my mother when she brought me the news, but hey it's clearly an improvement! A few more and I'll be sprouting condolences to the world like a priest... Though it would seem to require too much energy. And having understanding =/= tolerating.
I do not give a fuck about the strangers who died in Belgium. But i understand that others care. Because i have a friend who lives in Belgium and i only asked if she is ok. I couldn't care less about the rest. But if i was to apply this care to everyone(but perhaps on a lesser extend), like most people seem to, then their reactions would make sense.​
To me friends as well as acquaintances are like Schrodinger's cats. They start to exist for a time being when I give them a ring, bump in a street or, to a lesser degree, think about them (which is why I tend to get irked when some of them calls me while they were "dead"). I mean, right now if I focus on some particular buddy, a silhouette appears in my mind, followed by reruns of various shared moments, changing randomly or by association if unfocused or featuring more concrete memories of a specific event if I place more emphasis on it. Glimpse of my "friend's notebook" also appears every now and then, or some links lead me to an other friend and so on. Interestingly, I can't maintain an orderly timeline, I can only determine which event happened prior another by deducing. Time and dates seem to bear little meaning to me. Back to the topic, the memories remain regardless of the actual state some person is in. Dead or alive, I'm free to roam and analyze however I please. Anyway, one's death would actually be a better alternative to declined interacting while I am interested in continuing.. <.<