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Time can heal it, if worked on consciously.  It's self-training, really.

So in essence,  time will heal it

You've already finished the hardest step which is identifying where that reaction comes from, now all that's needed is for you to desensitize yourself of those triggers through repetition. 

I've  told her about it, she knows my past. She understands, but I can tell that in her core she doesn't much like it. It almost hurts her feelings in a way I suppose. I'm still getting the hang of empathizing on her level. But I'd rather try to find the root of my problem  and fix it. I don't  know if it would be classified as a type of ptsd or what.

Have you talked to her about the abuse and why you move back? Helping her understand that its not her exactly that's causing it but rather some reflexes you haven't gotten past might help. 

Working on it together might even bring y'all closer! 😺😺

Thats one way to put it.

That's  great advice, we enjoy working as a team  and having things  to work on and improve,  I'll most likely show her your post.

The best I can recommend is having it happen so many times in a row that you condition yourself past that automatic response.

If you have her be a part of the recovery process and thank her for her efforts, it'll become a couple's project as opposed to you having to face it alone. Have her be a part of the solution and she'll likely be that much more understanding over it. Every step of progress made will potentially feel like a point of pride for you both.

Transform the behavior/response?