Perhaps some of you have heard about the lifestyle choice of killing one's ego in order to live an "ever happy and fulfilling life" Since killing one's ego changes their perception of life, making our feelings and emotions stem less from a "false" origin of how things are supposed to be and more from our "authentic selves" (I'm bad at putting the whole thing into words without describing where I got the ideas from, but they're mostly from budhist/taoist monks and a compilation of Nietzsche, Zappfe and Carl Jung) So now that you get the general idea, is it Healthy to attempt and kill the ego early on in life before truly experiencing much of it, or is it just a hassle that will make people less likely to treat you decently and lead your life to just be a recurring scenario of mistreatments and unfairness, seeing as the ego imo is what makes you take no shit from anyone instead of accepting their bullshit as it is?
I practice killing the ego pretty often, and I wrote about this practice in an old thread I made titled "The Process of Self Transformation" and how ego death really is a healing experience in disguise. This is why I often say, the solution to the issues we have with others, can be found within us. This means, not to allow others to manage your mood too much.
The thing about killing the ego, it's not something that should be done at just anytime, as a matter of fact, it can only really be done during an opportune moment, still it's good to set a standard of flexibility.
Also, killing the ego is always a painful experience. It's all a matter of accepting loss in a time where you're feeling down about something or someone. Failure to adapt to what only appears to be hardships, means the beholder is not letting go of the ego. At that time, it's all a matter of choice to remain, or evolve. To remain would entail further suffering under the influence of an ego that no longer serves you, while evolving/letting go, is the conscious decision to rise to a point, where the situation that challenges the ego is more along the lines of a walk in the park.
Of course ego death is all a matter of exchanging beliefs, or trading off the old ego for a new one.
Ego death is ideal for heartbreak too. What's required to achieve this during such a period is persistence in putting the self before the other by reminding the self, heartbreak is not what they want, and neither is the object of infatuation. Very persistently, like every time the thought makes them cringe is when they need to talk themselves out of it without excuses.
If a youth can do this then all the power to them. But they have to be careful not to exchange their previous state of being, for a more unhealthy one. Wisdom and being able to identify positivity helps.
"It is the law of heaven to take from what is full and fill what is empty"
In the taoism I've read it advocates managing the ego, not necessarily killing it. You can be modest while maintaining your individuality. I dont believe living by your ego or killing it could be half as beneficial as a moderate approach.
If thats budhism then I'm the next dali lama lol.. Probably also a good example of the recurring life bullshit. I always found having a small ego to be a good thing. Makes you more of a participant in life than a spectator, which is hard to explain. I think because egotistical people are constantly analysing their presence, whereas the egoless tend to just float around and let stuff bounce off them like a jellyfish.
(("I always found having a small ego to be a good thing. Makes you more of a participant in life than a spectator, which is hard to explain. I think because egotistical people are constantly analysing their presence, whereas the egoless tend to just float around and let stuff bounce off them like a jellyfish."))
Exactly. Those are the ones who have the ability to walk in the furnace unscathed, while less pressing matters are child's play.
Way to master the emotions.
Doubt that is ego WW3. That is survival in a dog eat dog world. If you haven't the balls to play the game, then you lose before you start. And you will lose along the way, small battles, those are the the lessons.
The driving force is the Will that drags your ass up off the floor after every loss.
Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, but if you cry about the losses you fuck yourself over.
So, Lose and be done with it.
Win and keep quiet about it.