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Implying I don't come here to escape the mustaches and unibrows of turkish women

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I'm familiar with habitual escapism. The thing is my friends and family , and even romantic partners, can't mix. There comes a time when they will express disappointment if I have other plans with someone else. Some of them actually don't even like each other in the first place, so I can't have them over at once.

As for the alienation, yes that comes into play. I mostly distance myself from them all.

I hate to admit to the stagnation. I come here everyday, when things are dead at work, and at home. I can admit, if I never came here, I'd get a lot more done. What I like about here is it's made me callous, something I needed when I arrived. Now If I fall ill, experience any trauma, or I'm facing death. I feel like I wouldn't want to turn to anyone.

This year there is a lot lined up, so I won't be around much. Maybe I'll take a long break from here.

Do you know any members who fit this profile?

Social Costs of Escapism

Habitual escapism will alienate you from your friends, family, and others in general. And because having meaningful relationships is probably the most important factor in your happiness and ability to handle life’s challenges, the findings from the previous section make perfect sense.

It is beyond the scope of this post to delve into the details of how a rich social life is beneficial, but surely you don’t need me to tell you that it is important. And interacting with people face-to-face is significantly better than having virtual relationships online. In fact, having more internet relationships is associated with higher levels of emotional loneliness than having face-to-face relationships.

If you were to do your own research on this, you would find that, paradoxically, using the internet to communicate with friends and family is also associated with lower levels of depression I think this can be explained by how you feel the need to communicate. If the internet is used as a supplement to face-to-face relationships, it is okay. But if you are using the internet to further practice escapism andreplace your in-person relationships, then it is bad. In fact, there is some evidence that when extroverts use the internet for communication, it is more beneficial than when introverts do.

Escapism Makes You Stagnate

Quite simply, you cannot achieve your goals while living in a fantasy world. If you want to improve in this life, you will need to experience discomfort. That is the only way to expand your comfort zone. But the purpose of escapism, of the fantasy, is to avoid even thinking about your comfort zone entirely.

A common theme you have heard me mention (and that any good personal development website would mention) is that in order to progress in any area of your life, you must take action But the more time you spend inside of the fantasy world in your mind, the less motivation you have to do anything about your “real” life.

Take the guy who fantasizes about being successful with women. He feels scarcity in his romantic life, so he retreats into the far more comfortable world in his mind where he is like a James Bond protégé. Whenever he is in that world, he feels okay, and that gnawing lack no longer has the power to motivate him. You can imagine how this fantasy becomes addictive and highly self-reinforcing; spending time in la-la-land is hardly attractive to the opposite sex.