Here i iz!
you learn to control yourself instead. you can tell yourself you how want to do it not that you can't or shouldnt. those two make it more tempting for me.
for example, i have to tell myself I want to wait until it is dark, or wait until some is asleep instead of thinking i cant attack until the middle of the night.
i agree it is a gift and very helpful to personal advancement if used properly. used improperly it becomes detrimental. there is even value in using it for personal pleasure if you manage to not get carried away. it takes practice and reflection.
Pleasure has a way of steering people...
Beyond certain aspects of sadistic ideation, my interests tend to not have much liability risk. To act on it at all to me is to not have control over it.
It's only every so often that it comes up in a scenario that won't risk coming back to bite me.