Did you get busted for that one Joe?
Strangely, it isn't that difficult of a trick; no real magic required... not even much sleight of hand either...
People see others through the lenses of themselves. That is their "normal" filter so to speak. Since abusers are in the minority, the majority of us view others as decent people. In order to acknowledge someone else as being abusive, they must either experienced abuse or have cause to set aside the "normal" filter.
Which one is the abuser if I am the covertNPD spewing a fkton of bullshit about nonexistent family members and then telling even more outrageous stories simply for attention and carrying the flag of the SJW in my ass?