I would first like to say, This place is nice. When someone is nigging out, they are called a nigger. I like this, because i am direct, and am not good at knowing what other people are thinking. Unless i know them in real life, watch their micro/macro behaviors.
Secondly, I don't think i'll be here often, because this place looks kind of rapey. Because the way i was raised, I do not like to come off as rapey. Also, you all seem really close-knit it, and i am not looking for that. Although, the more failures and unmet expectations that build up, no matter how menial, I retreat to my core identity which was so meticulously hidden by the parents and teachers who spent so much time socializing me.
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A good lawyer would be able to get someone out of a rape accusation if she consented half way through sex, didn't technically say no, struggled but gave in eventually, was in a relationship with him and had consented before and was still in a relationship with him, they both were drunk.
I think most real rapes only happen with two strangers. When someone rapes a non-stranger, I think it shouldn't be called rape, or at least examined more closely. The word rape i imagine makes people think of something bad. I understand, in the sense that it sounds similar to "rip" and rhymes with "gape". Anyway, for the general public sake, i think it could be classified as a misunderstanding instead of RAPE if the two were in a situation i outlined above.
Men are naturally stronger, and would obviously win in most fights against their women. If the girl said yes halfway through, didn't say no, gave ion, was in a relationship with him, one could assume that there was a part of her that was confused. She didnt say yes or no. BUT, she DID put herself in that situation, in most cases.
I think the only rape should be strangers where the girl is completely unwilling and is not scared by the issue.
Then the problem becomes, how do we measure sexual trauma? I think it could go as far as using lie detector tests.
Because the fact of the matter is, sex is a beautiful thing, and women naturally want to be dominated. So how would "not saying yes but not saying no" be rape? Giving in? Saying no but then yes once it started? If she enjoyed it, why is it still rape, i guess is the main question?
I get that she was forced, but in the situations i outlined, i don't think she was forced at all. She was just persuaded.. to do something she wanted anyway.