something that isn't just a "white" thing to think.
What about whiteness means you shouldn't think about race? Blacks will call it 'white privilege'.
If they're spending time telling me who I am because of the color of my skin instead of traits about the me underneath that or blaming me for things others that share my hue have done by lumping me in as "one of them", I'm probably not having a real conversation with them.
Blacks will tell you how ignorant about race you are and how privileged the white person is. And they will say how 'race blindness' is the 'new' racism.