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Question about connection to others

on 10/5/2015
Posts: 21

So I might be asking a question that is a no-brainer for people who are sociopathic, but for empaths it's usually difficult to apologize or tell someone how much they mean to you.  For example, often we won't fully express to someone how much they mean to us until an extreme situation presents itself, such as a sudden accident and the person will soon die as a result.  I'm not sure what the reason is.  I think it's fear, but I think fear has many shades- I don't think it's the same fear as someone pulling a gun on you.  Anyway, do sociopaths feel that type of connection that would create an inner urge to tell someone close to them, like a parent, in a situation like being near death that they were meaningful to them?  Or do they have it to a smaller intensity,  or is there no connection and everyone is no different than the stranger walking down the street (I don't think this is the case, but that's just a guess)?

Basically, empaths usually only FULLY express how much someone means to them in extreme cases, like the person is lying on the ground and is about to die.  Do sociopaths have that same thing going on, like they don't fully express how much someone means to them until a situation like this?  Or is this a dumb question and they either don't ever hold back and therefore feel there's nothing they would need to say to the person that's about to die, or is there no real feeling within that really cares if the person lives or dies and therefore wouldn't feel the urge to tell them such a thing?  Or something totally different.  Okay, that's enough 'or' situations.  Thoughts?

on 10/5/2015
Posts: 2216
Question about connection to others

When someone is meaningful to a sociopath, the relationship is based on the person's usefulness.

Typically when we're losing someone, as you say the meaningful transmissions come about, cause the persons ego will have to change.

This is the same for the sociopath losing a, useful, person.  However, instead of sadness, the distress a sociopath would experience is anger, UNLESS the sociopath is a beneficiary of the persons departure, the the benefits will have to outweigh the persons usefulness when they were around. If there is a loss in quality of living, the sociopath would probably communicate nasty messages, that fall along the lines of, "how can you leave me at a time like this" which might be noted as dramatically endearing. 

In short, the sociopath would be angered when they lose someone they would consider valuable in the sense it benefits them. Like a connection that makes living more enjoyable or comfortable or profitable.

They won't feel sadness, just emptiness which might lead to envy when they see someone who has what they once had. They'd seek someone to fill the void and when they do, they won't feel anyway about the departed, as they did when they passed away.

on 10/5/2015
Posts: 21
Question about connection to others

I gotcha.  So in a way, it's nice to be sociopathic because loss only haunts you until you are able to replace it.  Man, sociopaths are so interesting to me.  They throw a big wrench in the whole idea of what life's about.

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