Gaslighting involves making someone believe smth false. Where was I wrong? You just excused Aurora's manipulative behavior saying "she didn't intend to manipulate" (even though it's obvious she had the length of the thread in mind when she wrote the title). Even assuming her manipulation wasn't intentional, in order not to appear a hypocritical anti-manipulator you shouldn't feed it by giving her what she intentionally or unintentionally wanted (more posts for this thread).