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There's a response I can learn something from. 

i don't think she's like a typical sociopath. she said she doesn't have empathy and that's all it means to her but she was diagnosed because she used to torture her pets as a kid and her dad was a bad man or something along those lines. I don't know. She's not the sort of person who cares abour fucking with people or pretending she cares when she doesn't, and (to me and a few mates as well) it seems as if she at least likes me as a person. The times she doesn't like a person she is either really obvious about it or just walks away haha

shes also never had a short term relationship so I guess that's a good thing?

I've read a lot about the disorder, I've done psychology courses and so has she but she tells me psychology is wrong when it comes to different kinds of minds that aren't the norm, which as someone with a lot of depression and suicide in his family, as well as being bipolar, I can understand  

as for the being alive thing, she's had a LOT of shit happen to her, and her lack of empathy or ASPD or whatever has kept her from killing herself, as well as a literal situation where her dad tried to hurt her (or kill her, who knows he had a pipe ready to smash her head in) and she was calm enough to think and find a way out. someone will probably say she's lying to me, but I know at least that's true, because her friend was on a Skype call with her at that time 

she will never like you the way that you like her 

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thats cool and all but please give me a reason why instead of just 'nah' :) even if I can't be with her I want to be her friend, so actual good advice would be greatly appreciated :)

If she was telling the truth and actually has aspd, you should just do some of your own research about it instead of posting here and you'll figure out why she probably won't be falling for you anytime soon. If she does want you, it'll be short-term thing and you'll get hurt. Your best bet is to just continue doing what you're doing and don't get too close. Right now she either a) is messing with you b) doesn't really give a fuck about you

Im confused about what you meant with "it's literally the reason she's still alive right now" though? Elaborate?

I think you should tell her that you don't mind her having aspd. if she's suspicious of you, she'll start trusting you and relax over this matter. if you're being paranoid, she'll tell you this and you will calm down yourself. it's a win-win situation.

I can't tell you more without knowing more about you, her and what kind of relationship you currently have.

Thanks man, that helped. I probably do need to not be so paranoid, but I've never been in a relationship before, so it's all very new to me

Ask her if she'd like to go skydiving with you to really make an impression.

lol idk. I don't even know if you can make her happy. You've only known her for two months, chances are, perhaps she thought you were attractive and cool but that's about all. I want to say something different than "Just be there for her", but I don't know what else there is. If she has her own shit going on, you can't fix that, especially since she will never be emotionally connected to you. 

I realize I haven't given you actual advice, nor have I said anything positive, but hopefully you can figure out what to do on your own.

Thanks for understanding :) I want to make her happy, that's my ultimate goal. Shes pretty depressed recently; her family have all rejected her so she had to move out of the state. I guess I wanna show her life doesnt have to be as shitty as hers has been. I came here to understand a different perspective of what's going on in her head, one that I can't get. But I guess that's not possible, because everyone's different, even if they have the same disorder

im 22, and shes 21

Ty for more information, I can work with that. I think different people will give you different advice on this, because there's so many things you can do here and people have different reactions. Also, it's very hard for me to properly judge the situation based on a couple written paragraphs.

I get that you care about this girl, that you're really into her, that you enjoy talking about her and getting feedback. What exactly do you want out of this? Do you want someone to tell you how to get her no matter what? Do you want to make her happy? etc

Btw. How old are you two?