Well to be honest it's hard to tell with so little info on hand, could you add some more details on how you were molested? What you were wearing, what he told you, how did it felt etc
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ignoring the obvious troll nature of this post, i always thought having repressed memories of sexual abuse was like winning the lottery, seemingly completely random. apparently, if you have repressed memories there'll be some (usually creepy) shit you kinda remember, i'm assuming before the abuse took place. a dark figure at the top of the stairs, a smell that makes you terrified..interesting stuff.
So i was talking to a family member recently who said she was given beer and other alcoholic beverages before being fondled and humped by her father who is my grandfather who also happened to give me alcohol since the age of five. What are the chances i was fondled and humped since the same method was used on me? Does molestation plus alcoholic beverages equal eventual sociopathy ? Help
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by thesugargirlnot dealing with things means they affect you subconsciously and perpetually. dealing with them may be difficult but then they will be released, like a butterfly
Like a butterfly, cute XD Anyway, since this turned into a semi-serious topic for some reason, Flibberstuff's point makes more sense to me. If the kid wasn't hurt maybe it's good to just not think about it anymore. If the kid was hurt... dunno. People forget as defensive mechanisms. Maybe there's a reason for that. Brain knows better what it can cope with and what not.
If you don't have any trauma from it then why are you trying to stir some up?
Maybe your grandpa just thought kids look funny when they're drunk. In his defense, they do. That's not to say your relative was lying about the abuse, just that her being abused doesn't mean he abused every kid he came across.
In either case, is this something you'd like to remember? If not, stop digging because if you think about it hard enough, you'll find something unpleasant one way or the other. Either you'll uncover abuse in your past, that you have no evidence to act on anyway, and for fun, you'll probably start to suffer for trauma your brain went through the trouble of protecting you from, -OR- your brain is going to make shit up just to shut you up about it, because it thinks that's what you want. Look up "false memories" if you're curious about this second thing.
Either way, unless you WANT sexual mental images of your grandpa, and the accompanying (pointless) trauma, you should just leave it alone.
Sexual abuse has nothing to do with Sociopathy. Plenty of people who are abused don't become sociopaths and plenty who aren't abused do.
I wasn't abused, and I became one. I wish I had been, my babysitters were hot.
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