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What Edvard said is pretty logical. If you have social anxiety or if you want to be more outgoing in general you should go out of your comfort zone.

by floss

Fear in one way or another has been the primary reason for most of my suffering for the past decade. So many opportunities missed and good times that could have been had if fear didn't get in the way. Specifically, social anxiety being the fear I am primarily referring to.

I blame majority of the fear as result of poor nurturing from parents with psychological issues, where eugenics should have been enforced. Basically, they raised me improperly, isolated me, and mentally abused me for the entirety of my child-teenage life. As a result, I always slip back to my "default mode" when I "fall off the wagon" or take breaks from whatever pro-active approach to social-anxiety conquering that I am doing. My "default mode" can be described as extremely introverted, quiet, depressed, and usually pretty anxious/fearful in social situations.

I have suffered an injury that has left me physically, mentally, and neurologically screwed up for the past few years. As a result, I hide away in my room 24 hours of the day working on my online endeavours/work. If I were to get better and get back out into the real world, I would not want fear rendering me practically immobile as it once did.

Prior to my injury I was conquering social anxiety through exposure therpay; ie: constantly forcing myself into situations that made me uncomfortable and plowing through until it became easier. Also, becoming more socially skilled in general. Additionally, working out in the gym like a maniac until I reached Saiyan like proportions; which helped a great deal more for getting other men to fear me, as well as attracting the opposite sex, than it ever did for my own problems.

The worst part about this is I see reality more through the lens of a scientist or a philosopher rather than what the average person perceives it as. In other words, I see through sociatal/cultural engrained belief systems, morals, ethics, religion, and whatever other engrained dogmatic fantasies are put into our heads that set the tone or rules of what we're supposed to think/do/be/act as a person in society.

Reality is subjective. Life is a game. An experience packet if you will; where the primary concern when the game is over being how much you personally enjoyed the process. For all I know this entire reality is a simulation where data is being fed to my "senses", which then get perceived as the world around me.

Still even with this mindset I feel fear. To which I see no value or reason for it to exist; yet it still does.

How do you turn it off?

 

 

Social anxiety...Just think of all the losers who manage to interact with people just fine, without any anxiety. Are they better than you? Doesn't that alone give you courage and motivation to will out your anxiety?

I am no expert in dealing with anxiety and understanding anxious people, but I think what you used to do before the injury was the right thing. Exposing yourself to what makes you uncomfortable should tone down that feeling, as your mind learns there is nothing harmful that can happen. Getting used to something makes your mind give less importance to that thing. Which is smart and useful, because that way, the mind can focus on the more important, unexpected things, and be more prepared for those.