Down the line I realized it was easier to just talk about things instead of allowing myself to feel the need to hide them from people like it's something shameful, and from that came an odd sense of confidence behind it. If it's expressed well, like it's freeing or like it's artistic or something relatable they can attach themselves to, the right word choices can draw people in instead of scare them away. Not looking awkward during the topic can make a person look strong instead of weak through either the appearance of confidence or acceptance. Dwelling on things also weakens your will and focus overtime, and getting past that takes either acceptance or outright denial, so I prefer to clear those cobwebs out by forcing them to no longer be an issue externally if internally isn't an option beyond playing pretend with myself.
Still... public humiliation's difficult to think of how to explain rationally, pegging as a curiosity hasn't had me in a hurry to try it, and some tangent sadistic thoughts I don't quite understand I'm not really sure what to do with. Those are consequently things I tend to not bring up as often. Beyond that the main thing I try to hide is the believed weight of my disorders by openly expressing it to have me appear more in control. In that sense, my willingness to disclose is a shield of it's own, softening the blow for if they end up seeing me be less than I am if I can't stop it from happening. By talking about it, people get used to it and pre-adapt instead of being surprised when/if it comes out of nowhere.
Edit: ...that's not to say that I don't tailor my topics of discussion based on who I'm talking to. Some things don't come up because it'd be out of place.
That ruins them in a sense, I don't like changing people. I would be great at time-travelling because I would barely have an effect on anyone. I feel I would be intruding on private property if I did that; if I wanted to influence people I would rather do it by encouraging them, trying to strengthen the parts that are already there.
Someone strong of self won't be affected by how someone else thinks unless they make themselves become more vulnerable for that person.
I don't go out of my way to bum people out, but if what I said happened to do that it usually makes me more curious and prone to digging instead of being more considerate. That doesn't always keep people sticking around.
Well, telling a religious person there is no God and he's not going to see his parents ever again or go to heaven might get him into a pretty depressed mood if deep down he's doubting the existence of heaven but analyzing it isn't that interesting imo. Anyway, I value people close to me which is why I would like to keep them happy, I just don't think the pros overweigh the cons.
"Well, telling a religious person there is no God and he's not going to see his parents ever again or go to heaven might get him into a pretty depressed mood if deep down he's doubting the existence of heaven but analyzing it isn't that interesting imo."
Then we are two different people. Said depression is usually the first step towards a more well rounded worldview, or the state before they enter full blown denial to maintain status quo.
Doubt in general is healthy in small doses.
"Anyway, I value people close to me which is why I would like to keep them happy, I just don't think the pros overweigh the cons."
I prefer to keep them more resilient, as then future strife won't hurt them as much as it would have before I came along. After the strength sets in comes contentment and stronger capability of maintenance over their ability to remain happy. Coddling them just gives them more room to be shocked over smaller dramatics.