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Every set back in my life is a push forward for something bigger and better in it. If you don't learn from those set backs, there's a possibility you could be set back from the same thing. That would just be wasting time for what ever it is you's rather be doing than getting set back. So, in the end I feel better and more improved after each set back.

It's not dealing with the setbacks that's the problem I know how to minimize damage and make the most of it.

What I'm seeking is input from people about; not how to deal with it but more about the general situation and the feelings accompanying it. 

I'm not going to claim that I have not had many setbacks in life but I'm not too familiar with them.

I recently had a big setback in life, and well, I feel strange. I feel more vulnerable and angry, generally I would try to fix it or fight it but there is nothing I can do.

I feel more, I'm not too sure how to put this or explain it but more human in a way. 

Anyone had similar experiences?

People with no setbacks in their lives haven't lived much or worthwhile, in my opinion. Be like a cat and always land on your feet, as long as you have your health there's little that can stop you if you set your mind to it.

Many. Some of the worst experiences of my life have also been the most emotionally transformative, or simply interesting.

For instance, the time I lost my money order and its receipt, and could no longer afford rent. I was feeling really frustrated...didn't have anywhere else to go near where I worked. One day from being homeless, I ended up sitting outside a Walgreen's looking through classifieds for a place to move to. I ended up moving in with some guy who walked up to me and tried to sell me some pot. I had a fun time at his place, and it was pretty close to where I worked. Sometimes when you lose your way on the path you're on, you find another interesting one.

Perhaps the most damaging experience of my life was getting kicked out of school. The debt being held over my head is substantial, and accumulates interest, while there are more pressing financial matters I need to attend to that prevent me from stabilizing my account. And right now, there is nothing I can do about that. But I do not worry about it. Actually, if I had to sum up my attitude toward the situation, it would probably be, "I don't care."

Perhaps whatever raft you're in with a hole in the bottom of it is much worse than anything I've described. I almost just went one of those "think about the kids in Africa" spiels. But really, hardly anyone gives a shit about what happens over there. Seriously though...first-world problems generally are not that bad, unless your ass is about to get sent to the clink, or murdered.

That's an outsider's perspective though; I know you've probably got a lot going through your head.

Truth is it was not really that bad, hardly comparable to something life changing, I've still never experienced anything that bad yet which is good sense and I suspect I wouldn't handle it well.

I have enough self insight to say I have a high level of self worth and setbacks that tend to hurt what I derive my self worth from are extremely severe. Having a setback (god I need to call it something else) sort of gave me a different perspective, maybe it was humbling although I'm not too familiar with what "feeling humble" would look like.

Failure and setbacks are simply a stepping stone to doing shit better the next time and learning the lessons of said failure.