by Systematic
- How did you get your victim to accept it?
Maybe this doesn't have much to do with your question but in my case the father and brother of the girl i'm in a relationship with were abusive not only of her but of her mother (mostly his brother). In our case we've wondered into somewhat dark topics and she's expressed her desire of getting hit when we get into heated arguments, she says that it "makes her wake up". She also says that in heated arguments she feels the impulse of hurting me in a sexual way (like rape) and getting violent.
Note: I've never hurt her and nor i think i ever will.