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by AllIn0neI have talked about quitting and moving before, now if you have not seen it that does not mean it never happened. What you miss here and fail to distinguish between is, quitting/getting fired the way I was, which allows me to keep the connections gained and use the job as a springboard for similar ones, while on the other hand getting fired for misconduct or other reasons would not allow me to still use those assets the same way. Hence little damage to my self image. If you look at the consequences of the two scenarios, getting fired in this manor and quitting, there is little difference.
But that is all besides the point, now you seem to think I would have anything against acting according to your narrow and faulty view of courageous behavior/cowardly behavior (which I have to say was rather entertaining, so good on you). As for breakups I would have nothing against just not contacting them instead of giving them a final 'courageous' goodbye I mean unless you have plans of continuing the relationship later or something of the nature, there is little point.
I do however do things decisively, and choosing the leave the cooperation was not a passive decision. (Active passivity)
How is not showing up for work active in any way?
They fired you because they weren't pleased with your behavior. How is that leaving on good terms and not damaging your image? And you said you gave a goodbye party after the firing, so you didn't really escape the whole goodbye thing, did you.
I didn't give them an excuse, I told them it was my bad, and that I understood that I would get fired. They where hesitant about it but where happy that I took it well (due to the fact that it's what I was expecting to happen and what I wanted to happen ofc I took it well, but they didn't know that).
How is not showing up for work active in any way?
I would say there is a difference between making the active choice not to, and anticipate the repercussions while at the same time minimizing negative spillover effects and being passive about it. The later sees the firing as a negative effect of being passive while the former anticipates the consequences and makes the choice to do it based off of them.
They fired you because they weren't pleased with your behavior. How is that leaving on good terms and not damaging your image?
By behavior you mean not showing up, then sure it might be a bit negative, on the other hand I did call my boss and talk to the people who where affected to make sure I would get positive referrals etc. So no I wouldn't say I left on bad terms but on the other hand if I had not left it, sure it would be marginally better to my image.
And you said you gave a goodbye party after the firing, so you didn't really escape the whole goodbye thing, did you.
No I escaped the formal goodbye stuff at work, however I did have a little gathering of close coworkers.