Are you trying to get a sense for people's cognitive dissonance levels? I'm interested in what people have to say!!
I don't have ASPD/SP, I do have a mood disorder so sometimes I have to control what comes out of my mouth, depending on the situation it's more natural to be mean and raw, but at work is not good...
With strangers on the street, typically I am naive and try not to say anything that could be interpreted as mean or kind.
You never know what some people have been through.
Alot of people don't know what to make of that. I enjoy it to an extent when people, total strangers eye ball me and then start preaching.
That's why I "dress for success".
I used to have a tendency to be really mean to people who got close to me, because you know, everyone has to be oh so kind to me, right?
Now it doesn't bother me so much. I just try and keep distance as much as possible. Although yeah, everyone has an opinion, right?
Typically in the past, I've been 100% mean to myself. It took a few different left turns in life until I started to love myself a little more. I mean, I've always loved myself, but pushing myself harder used to be my motto. Punishing yourself for failure is a very easy road. However, that shit will seriously burn you out, and you'll go full bore aspie down the wrong road for too long.
"1) would it be more natural to be mean or kind to someone you don't know? why?"
Kind, as a good first impression sticks around for a long time. It's also easier to gain connections that way.
"2) would it be more natural to be mean or kind to someone you do know? why?"
Mean spirited kindness, or Kind spirited meanness. Those who stick around tend to be more prone to blunt honesty and biting sarcasm.
"3) would it be more natural to be mean or kind to yourself? why?"
Mean, it helps with maintaining focus and getting more done.
To people I don't know I've taken a cautious approach. But I sometimes lash-out to people who don't seem to pose a threat a face value.
So, I guess I would say kind to people I don't know.
For people I know I think it varies to who they are. I defiantly have a problem of being mean or sadistic to people who are close to me, but I like to think I am a good friend to most.
I don't understand how or why you would be anything but kind to yourself.
Being kind is really, extremely close to being mean.
One persons kind action, is felt by another as being mean.
Being mean to someone, may in fact be very kind.
Right? The old saying of kicking a child out of a house, is "for their own good".
What is mean, and what is kind?
Maybe compassionate, and callous are better polar opposites? I don't know.
1) Kind- unless the person does or says something to piss me off. Then I'll turn on them on a dime, in the most unpleasant of ways. 2) Kind, with the same caveat. 3) Mean. I am silently ruthless with myself- albeit very forgiving. :) I pick apart my own weaknesses even more than those of others.