It's fun, definitely fun. But that kind of people are hard to find, true masochists anyway cause there's shitloads of fake fucks with low self esteem that pretend to enjoy the pain, but call you a freak once you step it up a notch..
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1. I keep reading about this idea that the masochist being "in on it" takes away from the experience, that when it occurs it's reduced into nothing more than mere role playing. If it reduces itself to that, that just means either the sadist is fucking lazy or that the masochist isn't strong enough to allow escalation. Learning about your partner means you can learn what makes them tick and what scares them, then proceed to use it against them. For me anyway, it's about two people pushing each other to their limits, not any of this "Yes master" I Dream of Jeannie bull crap. Instead of approaching the situation already their bitch, I'd prefer to be reduced to it each time, have it feel earned.
S&M ought to be about passion, and passion can be achieved in a variety of ways.
2. The best form of "playing with them" is teasing, especially through anticipation. Masochism doesn't always have to be physical pain, it can be mental too. Learning about your partner can ideally get around the crutch of first impression adrenaline.
Someone who hits consistently like a machine will achieve less than someone who drinks in the suffering and stops themselves from striking every once in a while to build it even further.
3. I have a hard time imagining someone enjoying masochism without that factor. Some do over proxying some other sort of damage, but I still really don't get it. If what's being gained doesn't involve it feeling good, then what's the motivation, some form of self-discipline? I only understand it from a more hedonistic perspective.
I think it'd be fun to have some time with a sadomasochist. I've met a few who had some really crazy looks in their eye, but that made them more intriguing. When I see others in pain I inevitably imagine as if it were my own, so I'm curious what sort of feedback loop would happen from two people like that.
There's something interesting about taking a person like that who thinks they like it, and pushing their boundaries as far as you can until they nearly call you a freak but chicken out - and then come back for more of the very same - but there's also something very controlling about that sort of person - "you can do exactly what you like, so long as you do exactly as I say," to which I say "fuck right off." But there's also something very interesting about taking a milk and water miss and persuading her of exactly what she wants and needs - and then giving it to her.
Boundaries are just made to be pushed on, aren't they?
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