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I have serious problems. I'm really a great person, I like myself and I'm proud of what I achieve. Problem is I do things I shouldn't be doing. Not bad things really but things that are not beneficial to myself. Also that I don't do things I should be doing although I know the consequences of this could be serious, and and in the past they have been. Sometimes I almost hate myself because of this. I know that outer circumstances have aggrevated this which annoys me to no end. I'm not really helping either though and this is amplified by the feeling I always have, that everything will be alright and that it will solve itself. Perhaps it won't be and it doesn't. But even though I'm writing this I probably won't change anything. Many times I can second guess myself but knowing this won't help, so yes I do have a problem.

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So let me get this straight, you:

o Think you're great, and are proud of your achievements.
o Hate yourself.

o Do things you shouldn't.
o Don't do what you ought to be doing to the point of serious consequences.

o Assume all problems will solve themselves.
o Second guess yourself.

o Admit you have a problem.

A good deal of those seem to clash a little, don't they? I'm betting whatever has you thinking you're so great is likely related to your assumption that problems will solve themselves, as what you've listed so far doesn't make you sound so great.

Do your past achievements blind you?

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"I see my greatness as stemming more from how I am, my potential and my abilities."
So you think because you're awesome already, the mistakes you make don't matter? You're right, you do have a problem.

"I am quite (understatement) good at certain things, I'm intelligent, etc."
Intelligent enough to not do what you ought to do and do what you ought not to do? If you're so smart, why are you screwing up as much as you're claiming to? Is the intelligence only in hindsight?

"Also the things I create or more like bestow upon the undeserving masses of the world."
Like what?

"I'm quite content with myself and like the way I am."
You're not content with yourself. If you were you wouldn't claim to (edit:) sometimes almost hate yourself, and you'd likely not think you have a problem related to yourself.

"I don't really hate myself either."
Huh, you're right, you just sometimes almost hate yourself because of this.

"It's just that I'm sometimes annoyed with what I do or don't do."
To the point of serious consequences, so you say.

"I do perhaps have too much faith in that I will always come out on top though."
You likely aim to convince yourself of this to help yourself cope with your failure. Do you not fear that that makes you somewhat delusional?

"I have been very lucky in my life but lately it hasn't been so good."
Oh well, it'll just fix itself, because you're so great, right?

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You make some good points. Problem is my past achievements weren't really so great. I see my greatness as stemming more from how I am, my potential and my abilities. I am quite (understatement) good at certain things, I'm intelligent, etc. Also the things I create or more like bestow upon the undeserving masses of the world. That this hasn't gained me unlimited success (yet) doesn't mean I'm not great. I'm quite content with myself and like the way I am. I don't really hate myself either. It's just that I'm sometimes annoyed with what I do or don't do. I do perhaps have too much faith in that I will always come out on top though. I have been very lucky in my life but lately it hasn't been so good.

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Yeah, perhaps it will just solve itself if I do nothing.

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by Storm

I have serious problems. I'm really a great person, I like myself and I'm proud of what I achieve. Problem is I do things I shouldn't be doing. Not bad things really but things that are not beneficial to myself. Also that I don't do things I should be doing although I know the consequences of this could be serious, and and in the past they have been. Sometimes I almost hate myself because of this. I know that outer circumstances have aggrevated this which annoys me to no end. I'm not really helping either though and this is amplified by the feeling I always have, that everything will be alright and that it will solve itself. Perhaps it won't be and it doesn't. But even though I'm writing this I probably won't change anything. Many times I can second guess myself but knowing this won't help, so yes I do have a problem.

 Sound like you have a condition called late adolescence

The cure is reality and letting the door slam you on your heels

If you don't get better in few years come back to us and we'll dx you with something else

Have a nice day!

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This is written like a riddle. Some actual examples would be helpful. 

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Potential is overrated. I once asked a friend what she liked about her fiancé. She said he had potential, and i was like, potential only means you haven't done it yet.

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You sound like me when I was 14.

I made many efforts to see past my own narcissistic delusion(yes, you have to accept that you may be delusional) and that your "accomplishments" and "achievements" may be inflated out of proportion. I recognized that my judgement was clouded and wasn't content with it, I sought out more concrete goals and visions to prove to myself that I had the capability to reach where I wanted to. Once I showed myself what I actually was capable of, there was no more second guessing or conflicting behavior. I had one goal and it's all I strove to achieve.

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by Storm

You make some good points. Problem is my past achievements weren't really so great. I see my greatness as stemming more from how I am, my potential and my abilities. I am quite (understatement) good at certain things, I'm intelligent, etc. Also the things I create or more like bestow upon the undeserving masses of the world. That this hasn't gained me unlimited success (yet) doesn't mean I'm not great. I'm quite content with myself and like the way I am. I don't really hate myself either. It's just that I'm sometimes annoyed with what I do or don't do. I do perhaps have too much faith in that I will always come out on top though. I have been very lucky in my life but lately it hasn't been so good.

 Potential isn't everything. You'd be amazed at how many people have the potential to be great and achieve a lot in various areas. Don't feel good or smug about having potential. If anything, you should start worrying, because ending up a loser with great potential affects you worse, and is harder to deal with, mentally, than just ending up a loser. Achieving something, exploiting your potential is the really tricky part. Not just for you, but for everyone else.

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