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but they knew what she had done?

I'm fairly sure it was nothing, sorry, because she was still at the school when I came along to try and catch me out on everything I did wrong. She's still working there now.

My guess is that if the kid wasn't a very nice kid, the parents probably weren't very nice parents. They probably thought it was worthwhile, or didn't care at all.

"I disagree. It's only a mistake to the person who views it that way in my opinion."

No a mistake isn't an opinion in this case more of an action that almost certainly guarantee's a hefty consequence. Such as running with scissors or playing with fire. I'm not going to dabble into the morals or mindsets of others, they can raise their kids on whatever beliefs they choose. 

the bigger problem with kids is that they may not recognize a mistake as a mistake.

by Systematic

"For some kids, not learning from their mistakes has nothing to do with incompetence."

I'd argue that not learning from your mistakes is incompetence, no matter which way you put it.

 I disagree. It's only a mistake to the person who views it that way in my opinion.

Here's an example:

When I was a kid my mother used to make my brother and I clean motel rooms after school and she never paid us for it. So, we both ended up stealing money from the motel (not together. We did that individually). In my mind, that wasn't a mistake, since I wasn't getting paid to work I figured I earned the right to steal it.

When my mother found out we were stealing money, I blamed my brother for it all and she beat the shit out of him over it, because in her mind it was a mistake.

I continued to steal money after that event, knowing full well there would be consequences if I got caught.

I hardly think I was incompetent for continuing that behavior. In my mind, my actions were justified.

You're right, even when explained some children do not understand. Pain serves as a temporary consequence until they become older and gain enough insight to see why it was a mistake.

i will add, that i had beatings to physical abuse and it may have had a bad effect on me.

If I run with scissors and make it safely to wherever I needed to get to without incident, is it still a mistake?

If I light a match in my house near a bunch of papers and just sit there watching the match burn until it eventually burns itself out and nothing else catches fire, is that still a mistake?

I'm just trying to better understand what you define as a mistake.

by Edvard

You say that it did you more good than bad, but let's face it Syst, you're not the most emotionally healthy person around. You have deep control issues. You are a perfectionist to the point of self torture and self destruction, and you cope with failure very badly. I recall you using the word "daughter" when talking about your target a few times. How can you be so certain your father's attitude wasn't responsible in large part for these issues? Because it's likely so.

 

lol exactly

u dont need to be an expert in psychology to see u r the product of the rod syst

u may think u turned out just all right but thats a pretty relative opinion from what ive seen so far