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Since the beginning of my arrival on these forums, I have been depicted as someone who is a liar. Perhaps that is because of my initial, but very brief cockiness - particularly about my education and my age. My age is something I've never said specifically - to anyone. My education is one of the top 5 most important things to me - it used to be number 1. 

With the good parts of me I have admitted to the bad parts more. The truth is that I come from a home which had a very strange way of living life - and one that involved social isolation. It makes me very confused and I am insulted that I have been depicted as a liar when my life is nothing to envy. I don't go around like a narc saying "you should be me"

I don't pretend that I am perfect. I am happy with my life - I wake up every day perfectly content. Has it always been this way? No. Do I remember the details of when it wasn't? No. But that doesn't mean I am perfect. I will always be imperfect and I will always be trying to repair and relearn how to live. Humans are social creatures and I have to figure out all the time how to fix this. It is one of the hardest things I've ever done.

People on these forums have used me as a stepping stone to make themselves feel good about themselves. Do I think everyone that takes part of bashing me does this? No. But I know there are 1 or 2 folks who do. If they want what I have, they need to stop wasting their life away picking apart the past. That's all I have to say. I blame no one for the way my life is. I spend every day trying to rise out of my roots. If anyone wants to use me to delude themselves into thinking they are really "not that bad" at life - that is their choice. 

I run the risk of my entire life being exposed on these parts. Everything that person knows about me. My age, my location, my employer (though I don't think that she knows my new employer). Do I like it? No. I don't. I value my privacy, but some where, some how...I made a mistake, and now here I am. I am more concerned about the way I was spoken to - and the fact that person thinks they can blackmail me. No one blackmails me and I hope she understands that when I have the time for her she will get it.

There is nothing on these websites that I wouldn't tell anyone in casual conversation...absolutely nothing. I have a philosophy in life. And it is tell everyone or tell no one. 

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Yea, i'll give you that. A lot of people here forget to mention those details about themselves.

I try as much as I can to admit my weaknesses and faults, because they are there in several areas. One of my biggest ones is my sub par social skills which I am always working to make better.

Yeah me too. Our minds need socialization to function so I try, but people are time and time again disappointing me. I figured I'd manage with the loner feeling than deal with drama, faking empathy and shallow/petty situations.

It's easy if you've been a loner your whole life like me to not put the effort into trying to improve things especially when you're trying to teach yourself. But ultimately reward takes time. Sometimes I feel I would probably function better learning with a bunch of second graders, because socially that's where I am... I don't know how to bond with others. 

 

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well I make fun of you because you're a grumpy sad little faggot and I wanna put my dik in you but for the rest I don't have anything against you. I used to make fun people to up myself but I found that by validating myself I can achieve the same results & no need to rip people new assholes anymore lol

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"With the good parts of me I have admitted to the bad parts more."

Yea, i'll give you that. A lot of people here forget to mention those details about themselves.

"Humans are social creatures and I have to figure out all the time how to fix this. It is one of the hardest things I've ever done."

Yeah me too. Our minds need socialization to function so I try, but people are time and time again disappointing me. I figured I'd manage with the loner feeling than deal with drama, faking empathy and shallow/petty situations.

"There is nothing on these websites that I wouldn't tell anyone in casual conversation...absolutely nothing."

Yep. I wouldn't worry about it even if you didn't. As long as you weren't claiming to be in possession of child porn, having murder fantasies, etc I dont think any of this would be enough to look at you differently.

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I am glad that you can admit that, Jim and have found another way to feel good about yourself. it is a big step.

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You're a cutie. Mind telling me about your menstruation cycle? ;)

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I honestly don't care enough about if what you say is the truth or a lie, it's still something to read that triggers other people to respond. Your posts also are above the bar compared to some users here.

Edit: "I try as much as I can to admit my weaknesses and faults, because they are there in several areas. One of my biggest ones is my sub par social skills which I am always working to make better."

Admitting to weakness is definitely stronger than pretending it doesn't exist.

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I honestly don't care enough about if what you say is the truth or a lie, it's still something to read that triggers other people to respond. Your posts also are above the bar compared to some users here.

I don't care if people tell the truth or lie either. I would be pretty stupid to think on a mental illness forum there are people that are solid about telling the truth. Because for some people that is their illness. I didn't come here to develop friendships...that's just not who I am. I respond to what I am presented as conversation and that's about it. If someone wants to spice things up and lie...well good for them lol. If they're going to lie, I hope they make it entertaining. 

Thank you TC, same for you. You are witty.

Admitting to weakness is definitely stronger than pretending it doesn't exist.

As a person I am pretty open about my weaknesses in all areas. I am not afraid to say "I'm not very good at __ " or "I'm not putting the effort in and that's why I'm not getting results"

I try to be very real with myself, as much as I can be. Being your own critic isn't always a bad thing imo.

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