Because if there was a category in the DSMV diagnosing 'huge manipulating badass who feels no remorse and does mildly annoying things to girlfriends/classmates/siblings, but loves animals', then you would be the 15835395th person to come here to be diagnosed with it.
First of all, I am not a professional. No one on the internet can diagnose you better than a competent psychiatrist/psychologist who has had several sessions with you being completely honest. I am merely a person with an amateur interest and median knowledge of psychology, combined with personal experiences. Do keep that in mind. Also, please be honest, this is anonymous and I don't judge.
Answer yes or no (and please feel free to elaborate) for each:
- Do you have a tendency to overshare when you meet someone new (not in a necessarily creeper way, but you will steer the conversation in such a way as you end up confiding to a stranger about things that most would only share with a confidant), especially in a social setting where you have time to talk?
- Do you act completely differently with different people...as far as to pattern your behavior and share your views/opinions differently?
- Do you set fires, as a habit or compulsion, and/or have you in the past?
- Empathy, do you think you could feel it for another human if you consciously tried to do so?
- When you feel empathy for animals, is it automatic, or do you have to "remind" yourself to do so?
- Do you have problems with anger, in that you will default to anger in the presence of more uncomfortable emotions?
- Do you have problems with anger, in that you will become irrationally or disproportionately (on later reflection) angry for relatively small or trivial reasons?
- Do you, when meeting someone new, have a habit or tendency to, either consciously or subconsciously, figure out what they would want you to be- and then be that type of person?
- Do you evaluate others by their potential usefulness to you, whether or not you plan on making use of that potential?
- Do you have more unconventional sexual interests than you have conventional ones? (Examples of conventional being: "vanilla" two-person sex (gender is irrelevant unless self-denial or it is a fixation), threesomes, light bondage, light roleplay, dirty talk, toys of biological or near biological size, solo or mutual masturbation etc. Examples of unconventional would be: heavy sadism/masochism, age play, breath play, scat/watersports, rape, snuff, etc)
- Do you think about sex more often than you believe others do? If so, how often do you have sex/ masturbate?
- When you remember a past event that caused you embarrassment, do you feel the embarrassment as if you were in the moment?
Thank you, I appreciate the help.
1) Mainly I try to make the conversation about them (I Read a book called "How to win friends and influence people"). But no, I dont feel as if that is something I do.
2) Yes. I find that around certain people such as family and co-workers (boss) , I act more polite and proper.
3) It's funny that you would say that as its my job to put out fires lol, but since I've been young I've had a fascination with fire, although I've never started a big fire, I have still messed around. More so as a kid.
4) I've always been lacking it. A big wakeup call was at my grandparents funerals. I just couldnt cry. Everyone was sobbing, and I had to really make an effort to get very emotional, so I wouldnt be looked at weird. I think I could possibly feel empathy more so of the idea of what is happening to someone but not for the person itself. For instance, my ex girlfriend wanted help moving. I helped her on the saturday. She wanted help on the sunday also. I said I was busy. So, sunday happens, and she calls me balling her eyes out saying how hard it was, how she was way over her head. I felt bad for her, but i didnt feel bad about what i did if that makes any sense. I was extremely happy that I didnt have to bust my ass all day. Typing that out really makes me realize how bad of a thing that is to do. But i still sit here not caring in the least.
5) It is automatic for animals..almost instantaneous. Those rescue videos kill me. I watch and the tears just start coming.
6) Yes, I do get angry. It is not an extreme level, but a lot of things that aren't a big deal to some people get me very irritable.
7) Yes, as in the end of question 6. Little things that looking back, hold no weight, can get me angry.
8) Yes. It's funny you ask that, Especially when meeting new women. If for instance they tell me something such as, they've been cheated on, or been to a certain country etc etc, I'll lie to them and tell them what I think they want to hear for example "Thats terrible, my ex girlfriend cheated on me as well, I know what you're going through" Although that would be a lie. . As for Co-workers and bosses I do the same. I see how the structure is within and I adapt to it.
9) Yes. For instance, Last week I might a girl who was great. Turns out she lived a couple hours away. When I found that out, I had very little interest anymore and moved on. I really did not care to make the 2 hour drive in the future. I realize that I keep using examples of women alot but its a big part of my life.
10) I definitely have more conventional interests. Although there may be a few unconventional ones.
11) Yes. To the point where that may be one of the most important things in my life. I love sex. And I love the chase to get it. Around once a day although I could definitely do more.
12) No. Definitely not.
Thanks again for taking the time.
hello jay
i think u might be closet homosexual
do not be worried about ur condition in most countries homosexuality is no longer a mental illness or a crime so u dont even need to remain in closet
there r some notable exceptions to the rule is the muslim world u will be stoned to death and russia u will be assassinated (russia doesnt believe in death penalty in this country people they dont approve of simply "disappear")
I'm pretty sure you're not a sociopath. I'm not a sociopath but still don't feel any empathy for people, I have never felt the emotions guilt or remorse even when I've done something 'wrong' (e.g. sleep with a pregnant woman's husband), my morals are adjustable and purely based on logic/what will get me what I want in the long term, I seek to ruin people's lives if they cross me badly enough and I also didn't feel grief when my grandparents died. My father was a sociopath so it would make sense from a genetic perspective.
How do I know I'm not a sociopath then?
I have three cats that I love and would never hurt, I would never hurt any other animals, I have no violent tendencies, I only manipulate people sometimes as most of the time I'd rather get what I want myself as its easier (I understand that for sociopaths manipulation and power over people is sought after whereas I'm not that bothered). Also I have bipolar disorder and I understand from research that sociopaths cannot be depressed.
We're not sociopaths just not Mary Poppins either. I actually think, like most disorders, sociopathy is on a spectrum. You and I might be closer to being sociopaths than the average person but neither of us would fit the diagnostic criteria.
