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I was in a serious relationship with a borderline at one point and it worked quite well. The lack of emotional empathy made things much easier to deal with in some regards, but having to rely on cognitive empathy entirely is exhausting when dealing with someone with BPD. I think that it primarily depends on the individual. Sociopathy and BPD, while defining people more than some other mental disorders, don't decide upon the entirety of a person. Sociopaths can be very different from each other as can borderlines.

yep. I lied to myself that I was a sociopath for a long time, without looking into any other disorders. Although the idea didn't exactly fit me, I was certain of it, because I didn't want to realize that these problems made me weak, I wanted to believe they made me strong.

Also, most people don't like having clingy little fuckers clinging onto them, which is exactly what borderlines do. So if they want to keep a relationship, then yeah.

The average psychiatrist tries to hone in on what negative or destructive feelings you have, and what pills can remedy those feelings. They assume you are seeing them because you need pills and try to figure out which ones you "need."

A quote describing borderline experience: "I hate you, don't leave me." I'm guessing fundamentally the borderline condition is one of never feeling entirely secure about intimacy.

I don't think borderlines are weak. I think most people develop defense mechanisms to help them cope with whatever they grew up with that was abusive.

I am a bitch. And I have a hard time trusting people. I have a hardness and a coldness to me. When I am not crying and depressed or manic and laughing. :) 

I thought i was a borderline when I was younger. Then I switched psychiatrists. The first one I had I only saw off and on for years. It was after bad events happened. 

So i was often mourning a death or heartbroken. I can see why that seemed like I was borderline. 

So what disorder have you come to the conclusion that you have now aside from ASPD?

That's the nature of maladaptive behavior. They're using a mechanism in the wrong context. I guess that's why they self-sabotage in order to use the mechanism. A self-fulfilling prophesy, really. But that could be traced to every personality disorder.

I could make my ordering habit as an example. Why would I keep so much stuff in a room. The "in case there's a disaster!" when there really isn't any danger of starving or losing, not anymore.

No matter how many times the maladaptive people are told there's nothing to fear, there's always that stunted trauma hindering progress.

Borderline. When I first discovered what it was, I laughed it off as an excuse for people to be weak little whores. but, I started hearing more about it, and I thought I'd check out what it was actually all about. And I don't think I've ever found a disorder that's addressed my problems better.

You're right to an extent. The only problem I see is with the nature of the defense mechanism. While others have defenses such as complete lack of empathy (sociopaths) and others make themselves believe that they are better than others (narcs), borderlines end up being needy emotional messes, and their defense mechanism ends up causing the problem it was intended to prevent. It's pretty shoddy.