Trust is real.
But I don't trust you enough to explain it to you :P
Trust is relying on someone and knowing they have your back.
Trust between lovers=Trust is confiding in someone and expecting them to listen and hold that information confidential. Sharing their feelings and being able to count on them. Staying faithful. Carrying thru with things that have been promised.
Trust between a parent and child= the child can say or do anything and you still love them and take care of them.
Trust between friends= that they can rely on you. that you won't drop their plans if something else comes along.
by James AdamsI am confused about what trust is exactly. people say its so important, but it always seams to be a label for two things;
1. I 'trust' you to do this. Translation: doing it would be too much work so I want you to do it.
2. someone trusts me with something. Reality: I had tricked them into giving something to me and twisted their assumption of me to fit my needs.
Is trust a thing lazy people do, or is it a malleable emotion? or, dose the concept exist at all?
Not an emotion, though emotion can be entangled in trust. Lazy people do trust, but so do the active.
Trust is basically what you think you know in conjunction to what one would permit.
As an example, the bank can dick you around and take your money and destroy all records. But you trust that won't happen, otherwise you wouldn't give them your money.
Trust exists but but it is never lasting. You can do everything right and give a person every reason to trust you and vice versa. However, if you've given them even one reason to not trust you in the past or maybe do something in passing they view as violation of trust, even if you didn't mean it or feel as if you didn't betray that trust, then it becomes like a chip in the windshield only getting bigger as time passes. Only you can't replace trust like you can a windshield.
I am confused about what trust is exactly. people say its so important, but it always seams to be a label for two things;
1. I 'trust' you to do this. Translation: doing it would be too much work so I want you to do it.
2. someone trusts me with something. Reality: I had tricked them into giving something to me and twisted their assumption of me to fit my needs.
Is trust a thing lazy people do, or is it a malleable emotion? or, dose the concept exist at all?
Trust in general must develop from a faith in human nature and I would say that it is fundamental to life, unless that a regular battle against paranoia seems more tempting.
And is most likely to arrive in a subjective logical (Calculating the probability of waste and advantage) and emotional (Exposeing vulnerabilities believing that no advantage will be taken) act.
Trust is not an emotion, it's a choice you make to rely on someone for something. This can mean different things for different people, and it is not a black and white issue. For example, I may trust someone to safeguard my life, but not my bank account. I am exceptionally trustworthy in some areas, but not at all in others.
Trust, like respect, is something that needs to be earned. And just like respect, it's something that can be lost. Assuming someone is trustworthy with little evidence is a mistake, and it's smart to carefully analyze his or her predisposition towards cheating, lying and betrayal before you consider them reliable.
As TC said, trust means a lowering of guard and an exposure of vulnerabilities. It's a shift of power that doesn't feel like a loss of power. Having someone you can trust and rely on is both comforting and useful. I've learned to put a lot of value on loyalty, and this has helped me and others out a lot in life.
The sociopath's mentality is usually centered around abusing the trust, and using the info or the vulnerabilities you have given them for their own benefit. They'd turn against you the second they feel threatened, or get a benefit from doing so.
It's also a mistake to think only sociopaths are capable of this.