There is this guy that I am romantically involved with and the first time we met he was so charismatic and friendly but now he is showing his true colors. I think he is a sociopath and even more sociopathic than me. How do i break things off with him without me getting physically hurt ? I dont really care about his feelings but I would prefer to get out of this relationship without any bruises or scratches.... I know he is violent because the way that we have sex is rough not just rough but too rough. I mean what guy bites a girls lip when kissing. plus I like it when I am in control
Hell, to reduce revenge urges, end it with his "feelings" intact. Make him think he left with something. Make him feel like he won something. Make the other feel like the winner and any aggression that they have will be directed elsewhere. Now, if they feel like they've won, but also think that there's more they can get out of you, then you will get the opposite effect. You need to leave him with something but also make it apparent that there is nothing more he can get out of you. I don't know your complete situation, so I'll leave the details up to you. But that idea should get you started.