Love is hard work that requires self sacrifice and sharing. Only patience and focus make it work, as long as all of the involved parties participate in the relationship on the terms that they all feel they are comfortable with, or are willing to go through hell in order to live by your side and through everything else in between.
Everything else is just another black and white fairy tale.
And this poor sod's mind is filled with a tale.
And he is not a Fairy.