I have a question I think you might be able to provide the most informative response. It concerns your thoughts on how you were parented...
The flower is a Black Dahlia. I am an avid gardener and I love natural black flowers.
As for your question... Nah.
I guess one might call my father "low-functioning". He was a drug dealer, smuggler, hired thug, thief, and the leader of a small biker outfit in his heydey, etc., but he did not impart to me the "tools of his trade". We only stole together a couple of times. He also started toking with me when I was about 14, and my mom finally kicked him out. He would pick me up where I would illictly hang out with my friends, light up a joint, and attempt to pry information out of me concerning my mother's activities and whereabouts. She was gorgeous, and he was a fiercely jealous man.
He also taught me to be very tough. He counseled me to beat the shit out of anyone who crossed me, but when I did, to my incredible consternation, he would sometimes take the other guy's side. He was verbally and sporadically physically abusive, and had the worst temper I have ever had the pleasure of dealing with in a person, but he was never consistent about anything. I grew to resent him tremendously.
There was a woman on SW, Selena, who claimed her father "mentored" her. Perhaps you are confusing the two of us.