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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot


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I'm trying to get my life under control. It's very easy to blame some condition, and not take responsibility for my actions, and fuck... even get others to agree and say it for me, I'm too vulnerable to be responsible for my own actions. Though as convenient as it is to not take responsibility, and as easy as it is to convince everyone else that I did nothing wrong, I need to stop doing shit that ends up backfiring on me. 

I can make whatever excuses I want. I can make people agree with me all I want. I can get people to do what I want all I want. I can manipulate people and keep burning bridges. Or, I can sit down and force myself to do what I need to do, so that I can reach the kind of life that I want to live. This, here.. bullying people because they won't leave me alone, because I can't be bothered to walk away, when I got them kicked out and they were confronting me about it, seriously....

This is exactly why its hard for me to hold a job. I'm trying to break these habits so that I don't burn so many damn bridges. Why is impulse control so hard? Okay... so now I'm blaming my impulses... while partially true, it wouldn't have been if I walked away when I knew to.

Honestly, I just don't want to deal with the fallout of my own actions. I don't want to deal with the consequences. This is exactly why I'm trying to get this under control. That maybe, just maybe, I can reach a point where I don't get myself into these situations.

I can't talk too much on the specifics. I just need to vent my frustration.

I'm trying to maintain trust with people. It was hard to weasel my way out this time, but I managed. I got close to alot of people turning against me because of it. I cut right into the person verbally, they were in tears. They should've left me alone.

 

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

i can understand this.

unfortunately i don't have any good pointers.

i only maintain trust with people who can handle me atm, without me being a burden or an annoyance

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

It's easy to establish friendships, hard to maintain them. Eventually, you end up doing things that sabotage them. Sometimes, you're attempts to cover your tracks backfire and you make the situation worse. That's why I'm in a program to get myself stable and situated in life.

 

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

What program?

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

 

by Turncoat

What program?

 The groups I go to. Why you ask? 

 

 

 

 

 

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

Was curious, subtext sort of thing.

You don't have to answer.

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

Either you get yourself into order and deal with how unpleasant that feels, or you let yourself go and accept that's what you've resigned yourself to. There is no right or wrong choice. If you are experiencing dissonance over your situation, you should make a choice about what to do. And follow it.

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

Going forward I'm going to do what I have to do to not let this happen again. I told myself before this same thing, this time I mean it. I agree though Tryp, I do need to set myself to it this time, as there are standards that I must set myself to on how to act to get what I want.

Rarely do I feel close to people, and among the people I ended up lying to this time, is someone I felt close to. If that person knew I violated their trust, how would they feel? I need to consider more how my actions will impact myself and others before I do things.

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Bad Habits.... Shooting Yourself In the Foot

i know the feeling. just a few minutes ago i was contemplating whether or not to stab a particular individual. kept flipping a coin , heads "do it " , tails "don't " . kept landing on tails, unfortunately. it's very hard to keep in line sometimes. i suggest the "flip a coin " method when dealing with impulse control btw.

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