today was bitter sweet...
my lil cousin had to learn there is no real shift of power in performance/ability between me in my late twenties and him in his late teens....at least in respect to him being able to "take me on" lol
i've always love the company of the children in my family and they I, but i've never been one to "baby" anyone, even....well babies
but we always had an understanding, even tho their parent always say they will never understand why they love being with me so much cause i'm so mean to they. i simply give as good/better than i get :)
one thing they love to tell me tho is "just wait till they get older, they're going to kick your butt for all the things you do to them"
i usually just chuckle because there was no more than a 15 year difference between me and the youngest boy. so when they're 20 i'll be 35. what do you really expect to happen? too many people nowadays view 25-35 as being old lol
so anyway, for some reason my cousin thought today was his day...
after joking around he made the same ol remark "i can take you now, watch what you say" and i just smiled and playfully lunged at him and to my total dismay...he hit me in jaw!
i was completely surprised by this and more than a lil shocked(he actually busted my lip too!), but for some reason thrilled as i normally feel when lesson time comes around hehehe....
so i told him "come on lets go then" no longer feeling restrained by the fact that even tho we're nearly the same height i have almost 10 years experience plus 100 lbs(give or take,and NO i'm not a fatty :P) on him. Because obviously this didn't bother him. i told everyone even his mother to stay out of this "it's between men". so we went.....
lasted all of 5min. of me throwing no punches(because he's pretty and i love him) ,but making it absolutely clear there will always be a big difference in power between us for quite some time. being young , full of energy and stupid will never trump older,reserved and skilled. just as my brother and cousins and life showed me the same...And the women of my family are not kind to weak men at all so he got to learn 2 lessons :(.
i wonder if it was the right thing to do now tho....
he is alil more on the sensitive side compared to men in my family and i did make sure i hurt him(lasting lesson)...
i try to only have to teach lessons once tho and i know they usually work better on men/boys due to bigger egos.
whereas it's a constant battle teaching the girls about their manipulative attention seeking and trying to get their way doesnt work on me...or the man they should seek to build a life with...
i'm am unfortunately the Patriarch(pro tem) of my family after the passing of the last. find my self at times wondering about my choices when called upon.
i've always been an "old soul" so the "learning in youth" concept eludes me at times concerning understanding and empathy.
i hope he'll be ok.