We all have those certain individuals that naturally oppose our ideas and ambitions.
Have any of your rivals had a disorder or any sort of abnormal mental condition. If so, how did the encounter play out and what was the circumstance.
Note: I could care less for online scuffles, this thread isn't about slaying trolls.
Lost a fiance over it. Her disorder when next to my own had us pretty much on opposite sides of the spectrum, which overtime became too spooky and alien for her to live with.
Otherwise, who I am works as a sort of natural filter. Those who are cool with who I am tend to stick around while those who aren't go elsewhere in time.
Edit: To clarify again, I don't have ASpD, but some symptoms throw people off in a similar fashion.
Well that could've turned out worse. You could've married her.
I have a question for you TC. Apologies if you've discussed this elsewhere and I missed it... Just how open are you with people in your everyday life?
For example, if you started a new job, what would you tell people, if anything, when and how? Or would you just wait and see how it plays out.
I don't have AsPD, but I do have a story about a personality-disordered adversary (of sorts).
One of my managers from a previous job was a malignant narcissist. Very obnoxious to deal with. Prone to confronting, degrading and humiliating workers whenever they did anything she didn't like. I eventually got along with her as well as was possible, and she would get me high during our breaks. But still she would blame me for everything that went wrong if it was just her and I there. Then if I would argue with her about her blaming me for her own problems, she would wig out and leave me with more work. One day I woke up and said "fuck this" and called in telling the place I quit. I seen her one time since, at my next job. She was leaving the store, noticed me and waved at me. I just stared at her. I wonder what she really thought I thought of her.
Work me isn't really "me", it's just my perfectionism and filling the role of who or what I need to be. Too much risk to allow anything else.
For those who aren't related to or based around things like food and bills, I am far more open. A major factor about people is that there always seem to be more of them, so there's not much harm in scaring some of them off. I'll explain things that are my case, but I tend to keep the actual displays to myself until they've seen one of them at least once (as by then I know how they'll respond). When they know me for long enough they tend to notice some phobias along with some OCD stuff down the line, which becomes closer to an inside joke (save for an anti-OCD roomie, which mostly became that in hindsight).
I like to collect stories, and I tend to throw my own in about as much as others I've collected. When traits are explained in a science-sounding way, it tends to float better than something that sounds akin to Magical Thinking. Making the experiences relatable sometimes helps as well, explaining my responses more like an escalation raise than something aberrant and unlike themselves. Particularly perceptive people who aren't too busy focusing on themselves tend notice things faster, but also seem more interested in what they're seeing. They make fun company, as there's usually something off about them as well if they notice my traits too quickly, which has led to some interesting acquaintances. How open I am about myself sometimes inspires others to be equally open if not more so (if not compete and embarrass themselves by fighting for the role of craziest person in the conversation).
There's a lot of people that when they hear my perspective of Nihilism start falling apart, so that scares some of them away (for some it changes them instead). A few others aren't sure how to respond to certain traits if/when they become apparent, and some don't like being around things they don't understand. People who don't like me tend to have lies that they tell themselves that my presence opposes. In most cases, the stigma is not the problems themselves, but how they are displayed. Showing little to no shame for it and refusing others help has me appear stronger for it instead of like I'm making excuses.
Interesting.
by TurncoatA major factor about people is that there always seem to be more of them, so there's not much harm in scaring some of them off.
I agree with this philosophy. People tend to be rather generic, therefore easy to replace. Although it can be annoying to scare off one who has the potential to become interesting.