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Empathy is (among other things) the ability to mirror the emotions of another person, and act appropriately. But isn't it a lot better to mirror the entire person? To almost become that person so that he or she thinks they are talking to someone who is just like them? I do this all the time and automatically. Who I "am" depends a lot one the other person. It's also interests and stuff I talk about that I (mostly without thinking about it) "tailor" for the situation. I know a lot and I'm interested in many different subjects, so I can talk to anyone about anything. I get along equally well with a teenage boy, and old woman, an academic, a computer nerd, a woman my age, a hobo and so on. Of course it's easy to be liked by people and make friends when you adapt to people.

I have discussed this with some people who are or think (or at least suspect) that they are psychopaths/sociopaths. They recognized some of this in themselves. I general I think (more like know) that this is something most people do. Almost everyone plays roles and acts differently depending on the company or the situation. It's so obvious or commonly known that it's almost not necessary to mention it. Some people have a bit of trouble with this however...

I also asked a guy long ago that with all these roles (or masks), when am I myself? His answer was that I am myself when I'm alone. Sadly I'm not so sure about that. At least in my home I do not feel more like "myself" than when I'm with people. That is just one more role. I have however discovered something that makes me feel more like "myself". If anyone is interested I can write about it later.

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I would read if you decide to write more. I've also begun to wonder which me is who I am and if I did or did not find out, would it matter. It has become a personal "quest" to gain control of myself entirely before I set out conquering the world hahaha

I have these two friends who were until recently within my "inner circle". I would at different points in time have suspected them to be something related to sociopaths, I was a little disappointed then when they began treating me as "evil" because I would not join them in their views. They're the activist/human/animal rights kind of crowd. Point of this paragraph is maybe it doesn't so much matter which role the "real" you fills. You'll always be marked "Branded" a certain way. 

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I'm like this and there's nothing sociopathic about it. It just happens.

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pertaining to the last part: lately I've spent most of my time alone, and what I can deduct of who I am when I am not putting on a mask for others is putting on a mask for myself almost. I am whoever I need to be for how I am trying to entertain myself at the moment. For example, if a particular piece of literature or music artist or tv show is intriguing my time, and If I find their personality or way of thinking interesting, I morph my thoughts to resemble theirs, until I explore every facet of them and eventually get bored.  

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Since my early childhood I have had friends or acquaintances who have been more or less anti-social. In some cases it could have been that I was drawn to people who like to do similar things. Some of it must have been coincidences or something. If I think back through my life I can remember many children and people I've known who were psychopaths. Some of these people were my friends, others I just got a long quite well with. In a few cases they have been enemies. Like some older kids who bullied me... Nothing serious but still. Guess they realized they had an advantage since they were older, and used it.

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Yeah, as I wrote most people are like that to some degree. Some do however adapt more than others.

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I had this also when I was a child and still do in a way. Like when I saw a character in a movie I liked, I felt that I was that person, looking out through his eyes. This was mostly people whom I thought were cool. I have no idea, but I think this is nothing uncommon either.

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