I am currently trying to leave my bf alone. We have been together for 3 1/2 years and it has been a rollercoaster ride all the way. I am trying to figure out if he is borderline or APD. He seems to have the characteristics of both. He's very controlling, wants to occupy all of my time (when im not at work), he is a liar ( I can't believe a word out of his mouth), cheater (I have caught him over his ex house (2 years ago.. I know STUPID ME). Before i met him i had a home, nice car, owned my own beauty salon and was happy with my life. Now i live with my parents, my car is ran down (due to bf driving it) and i closed down my shop last year. (due to the unhappiness and stress in my life). I have been trying to distance and get away from him since november of last year. ( I got a Order of protection (EPO) . But still havent cut him out of my life totally.
This man has paid a taxi driver to lie to me. ($100). However the taxi driver did tell me the truth about picking a female up at his house at 5:00 am and taking her home. My ex denied this for about a year then eventually admitted that he did hire a female thru a escort service to come dance for him (yea right) then sh left. He had his 3 yr old daughter staying all night with him that same night. He convinced me to move out of the place i was renting when i firsst met hime to a much bigger (nicer)place. He said do not worry about bills i will handle them. Well needless to say there where times when i would comme home from work and the electric would be off. So i would call and give them a check over the phone to get it cut back on. After 7 months i receive the eviction notice. He had not paid rent for 2 months and i would always ask him every month has the rent been paid and he would say yes. I am 35 years old. Been living on my own since 20 never was evicted till now!!!!
Ok moving on .... I would complain how he had totally destroyed my vehicle so he put a down payment (nice amount of money) on another truck for me. He was suppose to pay the new vehicle payment monthly for 4 months, because i had 4 more months to pay offf my old vehicle. Well he payed the first month. By the second month i was paying both vehicles payments totalling over $1000 a month. I got a partime job, along with my fulltime job to handle the extra bill. The partime job was actually a fulltime job because i worked Sat-Tue from 6:30pm to 5:00am. So basically i was working 2 full time jobs. Anyway i finally woke up from this nightmare and hired a moving company to move my furniture(all the furniture was mine, except for the bigg scree TV) to a storage place. I did not tell hime i was moving untill the day of the move. He begged, cryed, said please give hime one more chancce.
I moved in with my parents and have been here since November when i moved. He has lied about so much sh . He told me his mother died when he was 22 of cancer, well i heard she actually died of AIDS. One other time i left him he told me he had testcular cancer. I ask for the documents, reports no such thing because hes full of sh. I want him out of my life but he wont stop calling me. He has a record with the law as long as can be and is in and out of court now for 2 more charges. His history before me has consist of 2 other EPO's, resisting arrest, assaults, possesion of drugs, driving with no license, trafficking ina controlled substancce.....and many more. I know hes not good for me... I dont even love him anymore i just cant seem to break the ties... helpppppp
