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oh, so she's a badass bitch then (:
she's showing off for you, and it makes her feel good.. the two of you have clearly different values though. equally stubborn, opposing values.
you asked if just asking her to keep her comments to herself would work. if she fervently believes that the way she behaves isn't wrong, then you really can't do anything about it. she is presenting herself to you as she is, and asking her to change and censor the parts of herself that you (and others) find socially unacceptable, is kind of like.. asking her to go back in the closet, no?
i don't mean to offend, just ask that you consider what you're facing if you continue this relationship with her.
i think that her silence, then shouting, then crying after you mentioned counseling, is behavior characteristic of someone who is aware of these negative bits of herself, but is unable to change them.
do you know anything about her past, history with exes, etc? maybe this isn't the first time counseling's been brought up.
I had a code word with my ex.
I know I am impulsive and say dumb things. But I wasn't that way with his family and friends. His kids liked me. His Aunt liked me,his best friend liked me. I think...?
Have you ever broached it like I did with my ex? That it would not bother me at all if he told me to simmer down. He was nice to my family. I trusted him.
it sounds like these are parts of her personality that she can't change, so to her it might feel like you're rejecting her natural self, by trying to change her. her stealing a handbag for you was her way of showing you that she cares, but for you, it's a social mishap that needs to be corrected.
can i ask, is she butch?