I started writing in a blog awhile ago before I ever associated myself as a sociopath. I guess alot of people will read this and wonder how I didnt realize I was a sociopath for such a long time haha. Its a long entry and a bit scrambled (originally just written for myself) but I hope it will interest some.
Everyone at least one point in their lives are vulnerable and therefore their fate is in the hands of others. A human at rock bottom can be either positively or negatively affected in a way that can fundamentally change who they are and their future. Applying these facts to everyday life sounds easy and straight forward but there is always the variable of the person him/herself.
People react differently to the actions of others and that is why it is so hard to manipulate or control strangers. Those who are closest to us are inevitably the biggest danger to us. To know somebody is to realize there strengths, weaknesses, dreams, fears, likes, and dislikes. To truly be friends with somebody is to know what it all means and how it shapes who they are as a person.
I recently saw a documentary about Bill Gates and many people discussed how he screwed over people or have taken advantage of people. Whether or not that is true, I don’t believe that doing so is a crime. Gates was a master at befriending those he needed and that is the key to success. People always talk about the importance of connections but there are so many different ways that people connect and therefore so many different kinds of relationships.
In order to manage personal time and these crucial connections effectively, one has to be able to quickly distinguish the amount of investment is needed in each person. Some people are not as inclined to help an old friend unless they are close. Those people would require a lot of time invested, which can be worth it, but if even a little off on the calculation than that connection is useless.
A huge obstacle is becoming friends with somebody but managing to hide one’s true self which does not care for most people’s problems or lives. The easiest way to achieve this is to be a good liar. A good liar can become a different person and therefore has a lot of power. In order to be a good liar one has to understand social psychology on a different level and the best way to learn is hands on experience. Being outgoing and becoming social increases the amount of social interactions and exposes one to many different kinds of people.
Although everyone is so special and different, there are definitely categories which everyone can be placed. My hope is to one day be able to establish all these categories which would allow me to know exactly how my actions will affect people I am not well acquainted with. A necessary skill to guide other people to the path that I have chosen for them is to be able to do the actions convincingly and well. So I guess all that is truly necessary is good acting/lying skills and the ability to recognize and categorize people.
The categorization is very different and much more complicated than simply placing jocks in one column and nerds in another. It requires the ability to read into people’s actions especially the small ones because group-think and the way people function in society forces everyone to generally be similar. The only way to truly identify people is to be able to understand the small things that set them apart from the group.
A simple example: it is hard to say anything about a college kid who parties a lot and likes Disneyland and beaches. It is a lot easier to say something about the kid who does indeed enjoy all the normal things but is a little bit louder than everyone else. Everyone in some way or another distinguishes themselves with some sort of group because that is how we think. Athletes, coach potatoes, smart, dumb, average, people who like the ocean, people who like coke more than pepsi, even college majors are something people take into their identity.
The best way to read people and categorize them is to see what sets them apart from their identity groups. A very important step into categorizing is to realize that there are steps. Many people rush into conclusions about others too quickly and stop trying to understand and take in more information. One has to be able to create multiple hypotheses about why someone is the way they are and has to be able to cross out and create new ones as they get more information. I find this to be very fun, creative, and very similar to a strategy game. I have to get creative with my hypothesis and in my attempt to narrow down my list, I have to create certain reactions that simply do not happen naturally.
Over the years I have taken on one “enemy†at a time. Each time the person was different and it has helped me understand people as a whole. By becoming enemies with a person you can learn a lot about their category. The idea of learning about human nature through a few negative relationships is logical. It also makes sense to go all the way with one person rather than be a little bit mean to a lot of people. People have different stages when disgruntled and in anger and it is efficient to explore all those stages in one person. Befriend those who have positive traits and create enemies with those who are uniquely inferior.
