There is a difference, when you feel torn because you can not fulfill a desire stemming from understanding something that other people achieve so easily, and trying to tear yourself from a desire you can achieve so easily, while trying to calm yourself.
Threading the extremes can make for a balanced path. But when you're uncertain of the extremes, or the path you take when measuring them, it makes for an emotionally charged and a questionable (perhaps necessary at times) path.
Then again, sometimes you can play along and understand the path with an overwhelmingly outsiders' perspective.
Do whatever suits you and try to take it in.
The point is not to be an asshole in your undertakings.
I can feel through understanding or mirroring, it is fairly easy when you know how an emotion works to created it inside you, or to mirror it. To me i feel through others i know and understand their feelings and i know how they want me to feel so i create that emotion. But is creating feelings the same as actually feeling them spontaneously? To me that's just acting, casting an illusion. And empathy doesnt mean emotion, it means feeling someone else's emotion towards something that doesnt actually concern you, like being sad for someone else's grief, that i dont feel. But i have a strong cognitive empathy to compensate and be able to understand/mimick these reactions.
But in the end we all feel, we all get hurt, sad, disgusted, frustrated, angry and all that fuss, we just feel it differently and maybe less intensely.
I can feel through understanding or mirroring, it is fairly easy when you know how an emotion works to created it inside you, or to mirror it. To me i feel through others i know and understand their feelings and i know how they want me to feel so i create that emotion. But is creating feelings the same as actually feeling them spontaneously? To me that's just acting, casting an illusion. And empathy doesnt mean emotion, it means feeling someone else's emotion towards something that doesnt actually concern you, like being sad for someone else's grief, that i dont feel. But i have a strong cognitive empathy to compensate and be able to understand/mimick these reactions.
But in the end we all feel, we all get hurt, sad, disgusted, frustrated, angry and all that fuss, we just feel it differently and maybe less intensely.
Edit; dat wall