How would a victim of a sociopath feel? Not in general, but I mean while things are happening, before they find out. When they meet the sociopath, what do they think of them, other than the obvious? Can they tell something is off about them? Things like that.
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Hmm, either you misunderstood the question because I didn't clarify it enough, or you felt like shoving something into my face that I hadn't thought about, most likely.
Either way, what I meant was, someone who becomes their friend or lover, or in some other way close to them. I've seen a few people rant about how terribly they were treated and all that. They mainly describe how the person would manipulate them, hurt them, and make them feel guilty, and then how it all worked, which isn't informative enough to me.
I understood your question and I don't think that anyone could provide a decent answer. People process things differently, one might be aware that s/he is dating a sociopath, another might not. The future victim might sense that something is wrong with his/her date but people tend to ignore things that would make them sad, thus they don't split until a certain point even though they kind of felt that such relationship would not go far. Moreover, it is human nature to seek mate which makes it even harder to break up once a mate is found.
The shares of the 'victims' is nothing but a pity play. I bet they started to focus on those things from their past after they started to think that their ex was a sociopath. Until then they cherished all the good times which just had to happen because if not they wouldn't have gotten into the relationship in the first place and because sociopaths aren't evil 24/7 and they also can justify their actions quite well. Also, according to some, sociopaths are dominant and they target the weak people who are likely to give in.
Before I end this gibberish I want to mention that you would fare better if you find a victim to interrogate instead of asking such questions in a forum created for sociopath-like individuals (not all here are sociopaths).
Also, as I see it, if one engaged into a relationship, s/he did it because it provided positive things. Like people eat ice cream because it's tasty. When the ice cream is eaten, the reasonable thing to do is to move on instead of crying about it. Pleasure was had, what's not to like?
I hope I managed to provoke some thoughts.
Yes, I knew something was off but when I spoke to friends about it they dismissed me as just not recognizing a good guy when I saw one. I had never been "love bombed" before, it was overwhelming and after expressing concern over not wanting to get attached to someone at the time he didn't let up. It was as though he wanted to devour me or consume me. The biggest hint that something wasn't right hit me when I realized he was too good to be true. Too much of what I wanted. Too customized to me.
The way he went after me was enjoyable, I won't deny it. I've compared it to the sun shining directly on you in the middle of a storm. And the sex was fantastic.
by WaterHmm, either you misunderstood the question because I didn't clarify it enough, or you felt like shoving something into my face that I hadn't thought about, most likely.
Either way, what I meant was, someone who becomes their friend or lover, or in some other way close to them. I've seen a few people rant about how terribly they were treated and all that. They mainly describe how the person would manipulate them, hurt them, and make them feel guilty, and then how it all worked, which isn't informative enough to me.
yes there is something that doesn't seem quite right fairly quickly but at the time it just doesn't make sense .. not sure what other specifics you're after ??
by stupid questionsmost of us are victims of sociopaths...
Speak for yourself.
You still see yourself as a victim. Most of us don't. Most of us stopped being victims when we learned to fight back and move on with our lives. Something you haven't learned yet because you're still living in the past.
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