Do you ever get told this? That people are drawn to you but that you push them away?
I still don't know what the person meant by this. Though it is the first time a clinician has told me this, but its the first time a clinician has seen me in social situations too though. She says that I seem to have put defense mechanisms up, which might be true, but what are they? How come I'm not aware of this?
And further, what if I'm not interested in getting close? What if I don't percieve them as wanting to get close? Then I just distance myself from them, is that then pushing them away? Or is that simply people not wanting to form friendships with people in mental health groups, for a desire to not relapse or just be drawn down by them?
Or perhaps I project my own lack of interest onto others?